I got home from work today, and they were gone. All of his things, gone. He doesn't live here anymore. I feel numb. I can't even find the energy to cry. I just feel numb. He's clothes, CD's, pots, pans, knick-knacks, all gone. This reality is to much. I will never understand how this man could leave behind a loving wife, a beautiful daughter, a house he built, a LIFE we built. This sucks.

Oh ceecee... that must be a terrible feeling. Nothing any of us can say will really make you feel better, except that you should know we are thinking about you and hope things get better for you eventually.<P>I think I remember you said he wanted you not to be home when he took his stuff. You knew about it, but the shock of coming home and not seeing his stuff... I can only imagine what that would feel like... ack.<P>Keep your head up!<BR>--airheart

Oh Ceecee I wish I was there with you. I don't know what to say. I'm scared of that day to. Just let yourself cry it out than get mad that's what I do. Being mad is much easier to deal with than sad. <BR>I really wish i could reach through here and give you a hug. I guess we all just didn't pray hard enough last night did we? Seems like the days just keep getting worse. <BR>Just know I'll be thinking about you.

This is the tough part--the reality of the separation. It's not just a possibility now.<P>It's not over if you truly do love him. He needs time, and you need time, to sort things out. That time apart will help.<P>For now, be strong, take care of your daughter and take each day one day at a time. The goal is for you to find out what really is for the best. Right now, it's not clear. Too many emotions to deal with.<P>You will make it.

Hang in ceecee... that day is most likely ahead for me, REAL separation. For now, I'm strong and hope my thoughts and prayers make their way to you. I may need all of your help soon with the same situation. I cannot imagine what that feeling is like. So many new "feelings" not felt as deep before.<P>Hugs and Bless you c

CeeCee- I wish there was something I could say to make you feel better. But you can count on my prayers.<P><BR>A Blessing to Friendship<BR>Father, I ask you to bless my friend reading this right now! Lord show<BR>them a new revelation of your love and power. Holy Spirit, I ask You to minister to their spirit at this very moment.<P>Where there is pain, give them Your peace & mercy. Where there is self-doubting, release a renewed confidence in your ability to work through them.<P>Where there is tiredness, or exhaustion, I ask you to give them understanding, patience, & strength as they learn submission to your leading.<P>Where there is spiritual stagnation, I ask you to renew them by revealing<BR>your nearness, and by drawing them into<BR>greater intimacy with you.<P>Where there is fear, reveal your love, and release to them your courage.<P>Where there is a sin blocking them, reveal it, and break it's hold over my<BR>friend's life. Bless their finances, give them greater vision, and raise up leaders, and friends to support, and encourage them.<P>Give each of them discernment to recognize the demonic forces around them, and reveal to them the power they have in you to defeat it.<P>I ask you to do these things in Jesus' name! In Christian love, Your Friend in Jesus.<P>God Bless CeeCee

Thanks all. I wish you could all give me a hug, too. I could really use one. Anyway, I am taking my daughter out for a 'special night', don't want to be in the house right now. I have grown so attached to the people here, I don't know what I would do without you. <BR>God Bless You All,<BR>cc

ceecee - there are many of us out here that are here for you and what you are going through - know that you are not alone in this and that i think of you and send you energy and support. Take it one day (or one hour) at a time if you need to. And keep posting, it will help keep you grounded.

cee,<P>just wanted to give you my support too. I also had to come home to find my husband's things gone. I had told him to get out after an argument before work one morning and after we had talked, I told him not to go. I wanted him to stay. But he said that he was tired of me, the marriage, and was still going to leave. I said that I loved him and wanted to be with him. But when I came home that night, He was gone....<P>I couldn't believe it. I felt so overwhelmed. I ran through the house not really believing that he was gone. 12 years? And gone without a backward glance? I looked in all of his dresser drawers and bathroom drawers. I just needed to see if he left anything that might indicate that he was coming back. Maybe he was just trying to teach me a lesson. He loves me too much to do this. But today, he still hasn't come home. It has been an eternity, 17 weeks. I am still waiting. Yes, we have plans to rebuild our marriage, but he is still not here.<P>cee, I feel your pain because I know it well. Let me give you my remedy. Shopping! Lots and lots of shopping! Clothes, shoes, undies, sleepers, etc. Manicures, pedicures. It made me feel 100% better. (Even better when it was his money I was spending) And when he does see you, he'll wonder why he left, when you look so good. And take time to renew old friendships and find a hobby. Rediscover the library. Go to church, buy some new music. Try bowling etc. And most of all drown yourself in your daughter. Don't let her miss him even for a second. You must love her enough for two now. She more than anyone needs you.<P>In other words, STAY BUSY!!! Don't let the emptiness take over.<P>We love you. You're a special person. Take care of you.<P>Love, Liza<P>Never fear, because god walks right beside you and if you get tired, he will lift you up and carry you.

Thanks guys and dolls-<BR>I am feeling much better now. The shock wore off. As a matter of fact, I looking at the positives. I get the WHOLE closet, no more toilet seats up and I don't have to pick up his dirty undies, either.<BR>What a support team there is here. It helps me make it through the day.

CeeCee, <BR>I feel your pain as well, H had been gone two weeks, now and each day is a little easier...continue to take care of yourself, those manicures and pedicures are wonderful!!<P>------------------<BR>Susan

CeeCee -<P>How are you doing this morning?<P>Hang in there - The one thing that's a definite plus is the feeling of anxiety and tension that has filled the house dissipates. <P>When my H left - The big boulder that was on my shoulders left with him. I was able to breath!!! Use this time to work on you and what you feel you need to improve for youirself.<P>Maybe H will notice!!<P>Hugs and Strength,<P>Sheba

The second time my H left I was a basket case too. But... manicures, pedicures, tanning, shopping etc as everyone suggested really does work.<P>The tension in my house dissipated too. I didn't have to worry about when he was going to leave, he was gone. <P>My H is planning on moving again for the third time and it sounds more final this time. I'm scared for me and my kids because it hurst so much so I keep reminding myself that when he is gone I don't have to make dinner, do his laundry, pick up his drycleaning, ask his opinion, put up with the tension in his face, worry about whether I am doing the right thing. I can do what I want to do. The house will be clean, I have less laundry to do, the shopping bill will be less. <P>Don't get me wrong, I love my H and I want our marriage to work but only if he is willing to try too.<P>BTW, I used to come home in the middle of the day from work because I was afraid that he would move while I was at work and I wouldn't know. Now that is not my husband, he would not do that... but this whole mess has distorted my thinking so badly that I always think someone is out to get me. At least your husband was honest and told you that he didn't want you there when he moved. That's a good thing I guess. The two times my h moved out I watched him gather his clothes and drive away in his car. Talk about heartbreak!!! Maybe it was better this way.<P>

ceecee,<P>Sorry to hear about what's happening to you. I can't relate since W and I are really trying to stay together, but I can imagine your pain. I'm glad to see that you are able to find positives and humor in light of all that's happened, but I have one question. What's wrong with the toilet seat being up?

I'm so sorry to hear-it must have been devastating to come home like that. I've been separated for over 3 months. Some days are great, some suck. Weekend nights are the worst, unless I go out. I love being able to leave something out and not get yelled at about it. I get the whole bed (except for the half that my kids sleep on). I think about us getting back together, which is what I want, and I worry about losing "my" house. I like my peaceful week nights to myself. But, it would be nice to have someone around to change a diaper occasionally...<BR> <BR>Lizbeth

ceecee -- I know exactly how you are feeling. When my W walked out on me, I felt a piece of me had been torn out. The piece that "understands." I would look around for something, and it wasn't there. It can be very bewildering. But it does get better.<P>You will be in my prayers.<P>God Bless

I am so sorry for what you are going through. My H has taken some of his stuff, bit by bit, and everytime he does it hurts so bad.<P>I have decided that I am going to collect everything that I can find of his and make him take it tomorrow, at least what will fit in his SUV. I am tired of never knowing when he is going to take something else. The man I married would never cruel to his family - this is someone else, and I don't like him.<BR>