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Does anyone know if the symptoms of a withdrawal from a affair relationship is like withdrawal from any addiction? My H is pacing around, distant, irritable, never focuses on any one thing. I get the impression that I should hide my purse because he would take anything to further his pursuit. His family and I have been making it extremely difficult for him to conduct his affair. His cell phone was shut off due to non-payment, I have the computer and the house, and his mother won't allow him to use the phone when he stays at her house, to call the OW. While I have never seen someone addicted to anything (except me and my mochas), I feel like he is and I am concerned for him and for my family. I am worried that he may take us down to achieve his goal of being with the OW.
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an addicted poerson will do anything to get what they want. They wont let anything stand in there way and dont care who they hurt to get it.( My mom is a recovering drug addict. 10 yrs clean)An addict will not stop until he/she loses everything. Friends, home, family. The have to hit rock bottom first and then admitt they have a problem before they can recover.<P>I hope this has helped you. If it didn't you may now under stand addiction<P>------------------<BR>brownphdt<P>
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Yup, sadly it is true. Addiction is addiction... <blech> and the thing is, as a betrayer... you lie to <B>YOURSELF</B> but you don't think you're lying. You convince yourself that you deserve this person, this (haha) happiness and, like a drug, that you can do stupid, idiotic things like <B>fly</B>... it's embarrassingly cliche'... <P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<P>Marriage: the most important contract you'll ever enter into, and the most sacred.<P>
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I have to say that even though I under stand addiction. I will say that I am addicted to My W and kids. I wont give up tryng to get them back. Even though I was betrayed and I know she is seeing someone. I will do what it takes. and have made some friends mad. and my mother thinks I'm a little crazy cause she is all I think about roght now.<P>------------------<BR>brownphdt<P>
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Oh god is it ever! It is extremely hard to control the impulse to contact the OP. I've never been addicted to anything; I'm not really an addictive personality. But I am definitely <B>ADDICTED</B> to the OW... even still after two months at a new job, four months after breaking it off.<P>However, the "physical" effects aren't exactly the same as a drug addiction -- for instance, no chills, no sweats, no monster headaches, etc. There are other effects caused by the depression -- eating problems, sleeping problems, what have you.<P>But there is always the constant nagging urge to contact...<P>--andy<p>[This message has been edited by airheart (edited November 18, 1999).]
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Yes, it is definitely an unbelievable addiction!! I have never smoked, I don't drink, never really understood why people just couldn't just stop.<P>It takes everything I have to not contact, it's getting better, buts it's a constant struggle with my willpower. <P>I have gotten to the point with my counselor advice, to try and get my mind off of him and to remind myself to concentrate somewhere else, I'm wearing a rubberband around my wrist, everytime I think of him I snap it!
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