Hi<BR> I know that I haven't posted on here for awhile, but I have "lurked" once and awhile to see how everyone was doing.<BR> After doing a lot of self-analysis, I have come to the conclusion that instead of venting and wallowing in my own self-pity, what I really need to do is work on me and my own role in my marriage problems. I know there were a lot of things that I failed to do in my marriage that were important to my wife. She stuck by me for many years, selfishly submerging her own needs to meet mine. I love my wife with all of my heart and soul and I regret that it took me this long to understand what she needed. I was always happy with her, so she did a good job meeting my needs and taking care of me. Now it is my time to do what I should have been doing for a long time. She knows how I feel about her, and she knows that I have forgiven her for her role in all of this. I am just as much to blame as anyone (and probably more so) and I actually am grateful that my eyes have finally been opened! I can change and that is what I want to focus on, so I won't be posting for quite a while. Thanks for all of your support in the past...and good luck to all of you!<P>dzrt

Good Luck !!! I'll be thinking about you.<P>------------------<BR>That Which does not kill us makes us stronger.<P>

It sounds like you know what you want. Go for it!! Best of luck to you. She's a lucky lady.