I must confess that I haven't even been lurking on the MB forum lately. I have been trying to get myself together while my<BR>H has been away.<P>My H had been living with the OW for almost a month when he volunteered to go to the Bahamas in late September, as part of a catastrophe team to adjust losses. I had asked him to leave in August when I discovered that he had not ended his affair as promised. We saw each other weekly, if only because of our daughter. He never said in so many words that he would reflect on<BR>things in the Bahamas. But I guess I wanted to believe that. After a couple of weeks, I<BR>finally got my head together and concentrated on myself for a change. Then at the end of October, I learned from one of his co-workers that he was planning a vacation in Florida before returning home. I was upset to say<BR>the least, and when I questioned him about it, he was quite annoyed that I had found out. I don't doubt that he needed a vacation but I was willing to bet that he wouldn't be vacationing alone. He called me from Ft.<BR>Lauderdale last week and so later I checked the OW's voice mail message at work to confirm her vacation plans. I wasn't disappointed. He said that his head was a "little clearer" now and that he wanted to have a long talk with me when he got back. Also, with our daughter. Well, I'm not an idiot to realize what the topic of our discussion will be. He is going to phone this weekend about my offer to pick him up at the airport next Tuesday. But I am soooo angry now that I am afraid of what I will say. How can his head be any 'clearer'? He probably spoke with her on a daily basis. We spoke on a weekly basis for a maximum of 15 minutes. It was expensive to call. He<BR>would have had to make arrangements to hook up with her in Florida. Also he never ONCE<BR>called me from his hotel room (hell, he didn't even give me the number at first) only from the office. I'm sure that his company would have paid for any telephone calls from his hotel room to his family. Sooo, my question is---am I overreacting? Not only over his vacation with the OW, but the fact that he has mislead me, pretending to think<BR>things over. I don't think that I can Plan A any more, or even Plan B for that matter, because he is supporting our daughter and myself at the moment.<BR>I would appreciate any thoughts on this.<P>

I think you are seeing clearly about the situation, but I don't understand why you do not have the option of plan B, because he is the breadwinner.... <P>Can you elaborate on this? It seems to me that he would jump at the chance for you to do a plan B, and maybe you can negotiate his continued financial support. Does that sound possible? <P>We were hoping that he wouldn't be able to have contact with her. That addiction is so strong. <P>hugs to you<BR>TNT

tnt,<BR>I know that he will support me until I find work. But he is drawing from our joint chequing account as well, so he will always be quizzing me about upcoming expenses. About our daughter, too, I'm sure. He even arranged for some work to be done on our house before he left. I was contemplating loading up his car (he left it with me) with the rest of his stuff. He has only taken his clothing from the house. I'll have to talk with him---unless I keep our conversation to e-mail only. It will be difficult when he wants to see our daughter. Why did you say that he would jump at the chance for Plan B?

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