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Hey Freedom I have some questions for you. You responded to my post on male betrayers pleasse respond. It was about how you felt about spending the holidays away from your family. The questions are 1. Why wasn't enough to make you leave the OW? and 2 What finally did make you go back to your family after I think you said two years? <BR>Thanks<P>------------------<BR>di<P>
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Bringing back to the top. Freedom, if you are lurking please answer.<P>------------------<BR>di<P>
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SDS,<BR>I don't understand your question: Why wasn't enough to make you leave the ow? <P>To answere the 2nd question: I went back home because the ow wanted to get married and the fantasy was getting old. We both saw each other as we really are. Maybe it takes that long for people to see the true personalities. Anyway it was just like it was in the marriage and we realized that we were only living in a fantasy world.<P>You can read the whole story if you pull up my profile (if it's still in here).
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Yesterday you answered a post of mine called male betrayers please respond. It was about how could a betrayer get through the holidays without missing their family. You said you really missed your family and you thought or wanted to end the affair and go home I wanted to know why you didn't end the affair at that time. Thanks <P>------------------<BR>di<P>
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SDS,<P>We didn't end the affair at that time because we were addicted to each other and the attraction of the the fantasy was too strong. When you are in an affair like that you are willing to risk everything you have -family, career, money, etc. everything. The whole thing is an addiction and when you are separated from the ow/om it's like an addict without his/her fix. So it's like a trap that you can't see an end to.<P>Hope that answers your question.
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Thanks Freedom, I am not sure that is what I wanted to hear, guess I would like to think that he would miss us so much he would come home. Yes I know that is very unrealistic. You just confirmed what I already knew but was afraid to admitt. I just hope it doesn't take two years for him. I read your profile I think only part of it is still there you should update since you are a success story we can sure use those around here. Again thanks. <P>------------------<BR>di<P>
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Sorry the answer was not what you wanted to hear, but it is the truth. <P>As far as my profile, I tried to update it but MB must have a memory limit so even less is in there now. The only thing I can do is post the whole story by itself. I'll do that if you ask me too since it's on MS Word.
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Freedom, If it isn't too much trouble, I would like to hear your whole story. I think that a lot of us would. We certainly need a success story the way things have been going here lately. Thanks <P>------------------<BR>di<P>
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OK. It's posted under, "The Whole Story".
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