My marriage started off great. We loved to be around each and could talk about anything all night long. 11 months later it seems that has all diappeared. My wife has grown very distant, our sex life is all but disappeared, and conversation is nonexistent. I try to ask what is wrong and she tells me everything is fine she doesn't feel well or she is stressed from school and work or some other excuse. I told her to stop working figuring she would not be as stressed, but it is still the same. The problems first started with a decrease in sex, then less hugging and kissing, next was less conversation, and finally it is a chore for her to say I love you to me. I spoke to her about marriage counseling and she told me everything was fine , but I was too needy. I try to discuss the way I feel and she gets angry at me. <BR> At first I would get hurt emtionally, but now I am starting to get feed up. Am I too needy ??? I get a feeling that there is someone else, but she swears she would never cheat on me she just blames (now) school or she doesn't feel good. I told her we can get her a doctors appointment but, she never takes me up on it. I try to be supportive of her and I do everything I possibly can to make her happy. Every once in a while things would seem ok, but they always go back. Some times I feel like she is hanging on for the free ride and b/c I am a med student. I do not want a divorce now, but I am scared she is waiting till I am making the big money to get rid of me. I know that is a horrible thought, but I cannot figure any other reason why she would stay with me and be so resentful of me. I have never abused her physically or mentally,I have never accused her of anything, and I never denyed her anything she is ever wanted. I don't know what to do. If any one has any insight, similar experiences, or advice I would appreciate your help.

Sounds to me like she may be depressed. Keep encouraging her to see a doctor. It took me seven years to finally convince my ex-husband to get treatment for his depression, but it made a night and day difference in him. You might also want to take a look at the Emotional Needs part of Dr. Harley's site...and see if there are any things there that jump out at you that you could be doing for her that would help turn things around. The first year of marriage can be extremely difficult, and it's normal to experience problems. It's important to keep in mind why you married this person, and how your own behavior may have changed in the last year...are there things you used to do for/with her that you have stopped doing? Good luck!