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#3280 08/21/99 09:41 AM
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I can't say absolutely no contact with ow, but seriously curtailed. <BR>I just can't believe I let myself get into this. And I feel worse for wanting to see her so bad. Does this make me a slug?<BR>Saturday morning and I'm kinda down...<P>I think the "high" I was getting from the ow was carrying over into my marriage. Since I've reduced contact my marriage doesn't seem to hold the same sparkle it had last week.<BR>Makes trying to cut off that much harder.<P>I see my therapist tomorrow - maybe we can sort this out. What do you guys think?

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BlindSided, I have been exactly where you are. I know that feeling of feeling better about my spouse when things were going better with the OM. I commend you for reducing contact with your OW. I trust you didn't talk about your feelings with her. Yes, bring all this up with your therapist! I still adamantly recommend you also tell your wife!!!

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No I didn't tell her - and I haven't told my wife. <BR>What really screws with me here - is it possible to be this involved with someone you've never really dated or been intimate with?<BR>The feelings sure feel real...


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