Dear Dr.Harley,<BR>I'm going to get married this year and we've been going out for four years. I have asked him to read your book, he promised me so, but he hasn't really much time and also will... Eventhough I told him couple of times everything I don't like about his behavior(such as being late on appointments, the way he's angry, the way he solves the problem by letting it goes as it never happen)and he did the same again and again ... He feels he's doing just fine with me and it's very difficult for him to change.. I know he loves me, there are lots of events to prove that but only this problem keeps going on. I hate to admit but I'm really tired to be the always first starter to make up our relationship.<BR>Because he did the same, it's very difficult for me to forgive him with sincere heart.<BR>I once read: People who is able to forgive is the one who has love but people who has love, shouldn't hurt the love ones by doing the same mistake again and again....<BR>I agree with this but it doesn't work out for me...What do you think?