Hello,<P>I've been married for 1.5 years. We dated prior to marriage also for 1.5 years. I am 21 years old and my wife is 20. You can see that we married very very young. The reason was that we both felt we were in love.<P>We've had a lot of fun times together. We haven't done much planning for the future or going to college or really anything serious.<P>I've hardly done any housework, as it was too convenient not too and my wife is the quiet type that only asks once. It took me 4 or 5 askings to even take out the garbage. Our apartment is a mess and you can't even tell she lives there.<P>We don't go out as much as we used to either. We used to go on drives on dates, just for fun.<P>Well. About a week and a half ago she explains to me she loves me but she is not "in-love" with me. The way it is explained to me, she is missing something she feels she needs to have a successful marriage. I immediatly started blaming it on my habits and promised to change. My apartment so far looks a lot better and I've taken the initiative to clean things without being asked.<P>Unfortunately this doesn't work. She assures me that it is not me that is causing this. She says she is doubting she ever had the feeling.<P>She's been thinking a lot about our marriage and has come to the conclusion we both got married to get away from our parents. Well, I agree that although it was a benefit to marriage it was not the overall reason.<P>No matter what I do and say she is stuck on getting a divorce. She still loves me and still gives me kisses but she is hurting inside. I can't imagine a more perfect wife and everytime I try to think of life without her, I start crying (like right now.)<P>Last night laying in bed we came to the conclusion that in order for me to stay happy, I can't lose her and in order for her to stay happy, she can't be married.<P>I need my wifes affection, passion, love, friendship, companionship, the great way she smiles, and her niceness with everyone she meets.<P>My wife and I are completely opposite in personality (which I thought made us an awesome team) and very like in recreational activities (Again, those combinations made it look like a perfect team.)<P>I have been a lot more sensitive to my wife right now, but it doesn't seem to do any good. She is so set on divorce. I'm not quite sure what void is missing in her life, but I've offered to register her for college (because she does feel she needs to go back) and become a little more serious with our life. I love my wife and I am very confused.<P>My plan as it stands right now is to continue doing stuff around the apartment without being asked and before playing games. I'm going to go on more "dates" with my wife of weeknights and try to do stuff we did before marriage. Maybe bring home the occasional flower.<P>Little help?<P>Kelly
