M hubbie and I have been married for 3 years and have two small children. My problem is that we just recently moved about 1800 miles away from where we grew up, married, and all my family lives. He knew I didn't want to move, we fought about it alot, I was just so exhausted of the whole thing I just gave in, I guess. We've been here, at our new home, for about 3 months now, and I am so homesick. He told me before we moved to at least just try it, and if I hated it we could move again someday. I am sooo homesick now, and don't know how everything got so far. I love my husband very much, that's exactly why I didn't leave him over this. But I feel so resentful towards him, especially when he talks like we'll stay here forever. I miss my mom and dad and my sister so much, we were really close, not to mention my three other siblings and all my nieces and nephews who I probably won't see for a year or longer. My mother-in-law was the one to talk my hubbie in to moving here, because she just recently moved here and said it was soooo wonderful. It is not. It's not a bad town, but I really miss the coast. We moved to the mid-west. I'm trying my best to be happy where I'm at, but I feel so alone and betrayed. I stay at home all day with the kids, and have so much home improvements to do on a house that I didn't even really want. Not here, anyway. If I bring it up, about still wanting to move back someday, my hubbie acts like I'm choosing my family over him, I don't know what to do anymore. I just keep bottling up my feelings inside and soon I'm just going to break, and I don't want to hurt his feelings. I don't know how to talk to him about this anymore, without us fighting. I feel so bad, because he really likes his new roofing job.BUt I KNOW he could find a job back home doing that, easily. Please, any advice would be greatly appreciated. I've prayed to God many times over this, and I still don't know what to do. I'm just lost inside.My heart aches whenever I think about my family and moving back home.Am I wrong to feel this way and was he wrong to make me move so far away knowing I didn't want to do this??

Did you not make sure that there was something it this decision for you? I always make sure that he doesn't get anything he wants too fast until I can see what he is willing to bargain for and how badly he wants what he wants... How about you going back to see your family every 2 or 3 months for a week or something like that? What were his arguments for bringing you there? You say he says that you would choose your family over his... Isn't he choosing his over yours? Why does he need his Mommy so much for? Did he buy a house that needed improvements to keep you occupied?<P>Sorry for the questions, he just seems very selfish. It's not because his mom moved that he has to move as well... Is his mother very sick????<P>Give us more details... If you can.<P>Y <P> <p>[This message has been edited by Yellow (edited July 04, 2000).]