Hi all<BR>I need soem advice... My fiancee and I are getting married in two weeks and I am not sure how to handle this situation. I just found out that he has been into pornography for the past two years. He told me when I approached him about this he told me it wasn't an issue and I should not worry about it. That he hadn't been looking at it for the last two and a half months. How do i handle this? I am very worried and do not want to make his life a living hell or mine... Please help....

I am recently married and can tell you from experience, if there is an issue bothering you, resolve it before you get married!! I didn't and am now going through some really rough times (married for 2 months!). Don't get me wrong, I love my husband and know that marrying him was the right thing but we should have resolved some things before we said I Do. We don't have the pornography thing (we use to have "issues" with it but I found that it's pretty fun to sit around and watch a movie or look through a magazine together, it spices things up) That's just me personally, I know that some people find it offensive, you have to sit down and explain this to him. It's hard and he will more then likely get deffensive and say something like, all men do it and crap like that. You have to do this in a calm manner, otherwise it will result in an arguement. Honesty is the key and of course Communication. Just my $.02

YOu need to ask yourself what is the real issue here, Is it that he never told you that he's into it? Is it that you think he's keeping secrets from you? Is it that you detest all pornography and what absolutely NO parts of it in your life, your marriage and your household? What kind of a problem was it for him? Something he did by himself while he was single? Was it an occasional magazine or a movie or was he spending hours on end on the internet and going to bars and stuff. Put the issue in perspective understanding that with the biggest day in your life being two weeks away you are sensitive to everything. I agree with the other poster to talk with him about it and not have this a taboo subject between the two of you and I also agree that if done in modereation together it can really spice things up. But Together is the key word. I have had a few very pleasant surprises that led to wonderful fun, but I have complete trust in my husband, what he's doing and what his motives are.