My original post was a couple of weeks ago, so I won't go into all that again. But I have one question - if it is possible, what is the best way to bring back someone who has lost interest? I am referring to my ex-boyfriend who was once so in love with me and happier than he had ever been, but then suddenly get got scared and overwhelmed. It has been a while now and we are trying to be friends but all I have been doing is asking "why" questions and probably pushing him further away. I need to make a decision one way or the other because I can't go on like this. Should I try to be just his friend and take away the pressure and maybe that will re-kindle what he fell in love with in the first place or should I just cut the connection and hope for "absence makes the heart grow fonder". We haven't gone more than 5 days without some kind of contact and he knows I still want him back. He just wants to be friends. I know if he truly has no feelings left for me that nothing will work but I have to do what is best unless there is any small spark left.<p>[This message has been edited by willow1971 (edited November 29, 2000).]

YOu need to do what's best for you. If no contact makes it easier to get through the days, then go with that. People need to understand that there don't have to be hard feelings when you don't speak. He is 'over whelmed' and needs time to sort things out then he can do that while you are doing your thing and getting yourself together. Going through the motions is often much worse because you 'try to hard' and end up making things even worse.<BR>I say do what gives you the most peace and let him deal with it. It you ar emeant to be together, rest assured you will be.