Hi, I’ve been married for just over two months. I love my W very much. Recently a difficult issue has come up. A friend of my W is getting married in August of this year, and she was asked to be one of her bridesmaids. This is great, not problems here, I want to support this marriage because they have been living together for a long time and as a Christian I know God want’s us to be united under His guidelines. The problem is that my W was with this bride to be’s brother in the past before I was in the picture: They lived together, almost had a child and the relationship was very physically abusive. It was so bad she had to run from him, and pay to keep her phone number unlisted so he couldn’t find her. I think it has been around six years now since she last saw him. But she has stayed friends with his two sisters to this day. She meat her friend in college and meat her brother through her; she was even warned about the way this guy was, but like everyone in this world we all want to be loved; and he was good at making her feel loved by his smooth talk. Now the problem we run into is that his sister is going to get married, and if my W is going to be in the ceremony then there is a great chance he is going to be there too. My question is how should we handle this situation? Is it right for me to say my W shouldn’t be in her friends’ wedding? Or should I just face this situation face to face regardless of the emotions involved? Or are there any other suggestions? <P>Thanks,<BR>James
