In past relationships, I have had a problem with being jealous. My first girlfriend in high school cheated on me and my last girlfriend I had cheated on me at the very beginning of the relationship, but I didn't know until much later in the relationship. I don't know if these are reasons for me to be jealous, but I do know I trust my new wife very much and don't ever want to have feelings of jealousy towards her or ever have a lack of trust. I have been reading a lot about marriages on this site and I like what I read. I ultimately know that if my wife is happy with me in our marriage, I should have nothing to worry about. She is very strong and she makes it very clear to me that she loves me and cares for me, so at this time, I have not had any feelings of being jealous. She is very attractive and gets many looks from other men, but I don't care because I know she is with me and I also can feel that she is not interested in other men. So my question is how do I keep from having a problem with jealousy in the future. I know in past relationships, I had a big problem with this and I worry it could be a problem in my new marriage some day. She is planning on being a lawyer and she will be around many men and have many male friends.<P>So I am just wondering where jealousy comes from. Is it a self esteem issue? Could it be that I don't think I am good enough for her (not in this relationship, but in the past)? Maybe it was signs from my past girlfriends that made me jealous and maybe I had a right to be concerned. I don't know for sure. All I know is that I hate the feeling and when I feel jealous, I try my hardest to fight it and not show any signs that I am jealous. Being jealous has got to be one of the most uncomfortable feelings to have.<P>Also on this issue, what really causes distrust in a relationship. I don't want to bring any baggage from the past into this relationship. I have every reason to trust my new wife, so I want to be sure and not bring any distrust from the past into my new marriage.<P>------------------<BR>Thanks for reading.

Well, I just want to say to you that, you sound very confident and trusting about you and your wife or future wife. As far as the jealiousy goes, that is result from the two prior girls that you were with, you gave your self to them and they played you. Always remember and keep strong in mind... those girls are not the same as who you are with now, and as long as you she strongly shows you that there is nothing to worry about with her... than just enjoy your lives togther and don't worry about it. In my past I was played by several girls, yes it kinda hurt, but that I think about it... I played them hard, and I didn't show any sad feelings toward them and they knew. So take it from me... you really have no worries.<P>