I have been dating a childhood friend for two years. She was going through a divorce that she didn't really want ( he left her for a younger bi-sexual lady he is 37 she is 22 ) and since we had been friends since our preteen years I wanted to help her through this time. Well you guessed it we fell in love, and I think we were meant to be together. I remember the first time I played with her how I felt a feeling of love,at least for a 5 and 3 year old love. Now I am 39 and she is 37. We both married our highschool sweethearts. My marriage lasted 5 years hers 18. We were engaged in Nov and had planned to wed in May but in Jan things started going down hill. Our problems are not that many and not that big it is just that we can't work even the smallest of these out. I want to discuss, understand, compromise to find a solution that we both can agree too, not fuss or fight but discuss. She just says that we have to accept each other the way we are, but she has changed so much from the loving person she was, When we try to discuss she gets defensive, and literally gets where she can't breath, we must solve some of our problems but how?? Any help would be a blessing.