Hello, My name is Chris. I am new to this site and to marriage itself. I am 24 years old my wife of almost 3yrs ( 3yrs on 11-23-01 )is about to be 22. To start off I would like to say that I love my wife deeply and I seriously don't think that I can live my life without her. We have been going through a problem that I quite didn't understand. She said that I never thought about her and how I thought of myself first. WHAT? I didn't understand, I thought that I did everything for her. I guess I was wrong!! I admit I want certain things and when I want I get. That upsets her...I know this now. My wife pays the bills and cleans the house. She did everything and I did nothing. That upset her which I know now. We got in a arguement which opened my eyes. I had to change! So I started to help around the house...you know do my share. Well I am a big Home Theatre guru and I found a reciever that I just couldn't resist...so I bought it. Bad idea...yes I know. I told her that I messed up and that I was sorry. Well this was a week ago, now she is back home in Washington with her family over Thanksgiving (This was scheduled). I talked to her 2 days ago and she expressed that she was upset about the reciever that I bought. I explained that I was truly sorry. She said that we have gone through this before and that she was sick of me being selfish. Not good seeing how she is thousands of miles away. Well she made me realize that our marriage is at stake if I didn't shape up. Naturally I went and bought "His Needs, Her Needs". It made me realize that I wasn't meeting needs that she needed...Affection...Converstion...etc. Well I just got off the phone with her and explained that I learned a lot while she was gone. I told her that I loved her and that I am willing to change to keep her. I asked her if she was willing also. She told me that she gave me a chance before and I blew it. Now that she is home she said that she realized how unhappy she is and that she doesn't know if she is willing to do this. Am I too late? I don't know what to do! Is she confused...on one hand she loves me and on the other she wants to be home with her family. I'm home alone depressed wondering if I lost the greatest thing that happened to me...is there any hope?

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Hi Chris,<p>I would suggest you move this over to Emotional Needs, it's much busier over there -- however, that said, it's coming up on a weekend, and that's usually a slower time all over the forum. So, please don't be discouraged if you don't get a lot of replies.<p>Please know that it's NOT too late to save your marriage, you can HAVE HOPE!!<p>Have you read any of the concepts here? I would be happy to post some links, if you'd like. I notice this is your third post, so perhaps you've already read them elsewhere. Let me know.<p>Best wishes as you begin to work at healing your marriage.