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Is it normal for a newly wed couple not to have sex in the 1st month?
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I just got married in mid january. My wife and I are both virgins but we have engaged in up to heavy petting before getting married in the 5 years we have known each other.<p>She used to have quite a sexual appetite, needing only minutes to get aroused. However, since we got married she told me that her sex drive has been unusually low. I have tried initiating it on the honeymoon and several times at home but since she wasn't receptive it destroyed my mood and I stopped. Now I'm not even trying, kinda just waiting for her to tell me when her sex drive improves.<p>We're deeply in love, and we hug and kiss each other a lot. But it never goes beyond that.
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If she is on the pill that may have something to do with it...as it is one of the side effects to certain people..I would maybe talk to her dr. about it?
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No, it is not normal at all. This is the time of high sexual involvement. The pill certainly is a good place to look for a problem, but I think you should look at guilt too. Involvement before marriage for those who don't believe in it causes not only guilt - I did wrong - but shame - I am a bad person. Your W may need to understand God's love, grace, forgiveness and restoration. But you need to work this out quickly before it becomes a set pattern. Get help quick! Just read the posts on Emotional Needs from men who have wives who do not want sex in you need motivation.

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