Lately I have been having second thoughts about marrying Jeff. For the last 3 months I can't really stand him. A lot has happened in our past and yet I still love and respect him, we have been faithful to one another. But I don't like the way I am treated in this relationship. I still feel like I need to make some decisions as an individual before we tie the knot, my desire like everyone else is Not to get a divorce. We have a child now, which makes this decision all the more difficult. He is a pessimist and makes decisions I can't except as a part of my life for the best interest of myself and baby. We were supposed to wed 3/16 but I pushed it back to 7/16 our anniversary. I am still very young and I don't want to go through a faze where I stray, adopting being a housewife is not what I really want to do. I don't want this marriage to be the end of me as a person. I still desire to be with him, but I don't know if I am ready. I don't know if he is. I don't want to go any further unless I am sure he is giving it all. But I am not even sure if that's what we should be doing.<p>Confused [img]images/icons/confused.gif" border="0[/img]

Tough one, very tough one. I would have to say for marriage (having never been myself) you should be very sure that this is what you want. There is no reason why you cannot continue to see him and stay together, but I would wait on the marriage things until you are sure.<p>Going through some doubts myself, so maybe other may be able to provide some more encouragement than I. <p>My 2 cents for what they are worth.

Joe_<p>I almost prefer to to be together and no marriage, because of this extra invisible pressure marriage put's on a relationship. But he feels me not wanting to be married, mean I want to be able to walk away when times get rough, which is not true but I don't want to be stuck if I am unhappy and he's not making any attempt to work things out.