I am 22yrs. old, husband is 24. We met on 02/07/01 and were married on 10/20/01. Everyone told us that the first year would be the hardest, but so far we are doing very well. (I do have to admit that sometimes it is hard though)
The reason I am here is not so much because of any problems that we are having, but more intended to help stregthen our relationship and build a firm foundation for our marriage.
The thing is, neither of us knows what a happy and successful marriage looks like. My mother has been through seven divorces... yes I said seven, and he grew up with an abusive father who was also and alcoholic. His parents have since divorced as well. We have both come to terms with our unstable upbringing, but neither of us feels that we have developed the skills necessary to build a marriage strong enough to last. So that is why we came here... to learn about ourselves and each other. The keyword here is learning. Our goal is a marriage that is rock solid. We have a little saying that we both believe in... that is: </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Divore is not an option!</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Maybe we are young and nieve but we believe that there is no problem that we cannot work through.
The Basic Concepts and all of the articles in the Marriage Builders Website have been extremely helpful and comforting for us. We have both read everything and even printed out most of it. All of the questionnaires have helped us to better understand each other know what our needs are.
We have learned so much and come so far in this first year together... I only hope it gets better from here.
Thank you for reading my story.
