I greet you in the Name of Jesus! All genuine and powerful prayer warriors needed--come one come all:-))))) Not sure if there is enough space in this little box to tell my story, but I shall try. My husband and I have been married 1 year and 8 months; dated 1 year before that. He left me 2 1/2 weeks ago:-( There is no doubt that the love is still there. But, we are fully aware that love does not conquer all. We married in FL where we were living separately at the time. I lived in NC prior to this and felt the calling to return to my church there, as I am an Associate Minister. Though, I went about this in the wrong manner. I approached this issue w/ an "I'm going w/or w/o you attitude." That started the resentment right there. Well, because he loved me and knew he wanted to be w/m forever came w/me. I am a prior military gal and am very accustomed to moving around. Very adjustable. My husband is 2 years older than me, but never been in a position to have to pay all bills on his own, etc, w/no family assistance to fall back on. Don't get me wrong--he's extremely independent, but when it comes to advice I feel he's been over-reliant on his mother (yep, the in-law issue..lol!) Anyway, we've been in NC for 1 1/2 yr and the transition has not been an easy or a good one for him. I, inturn, was not very understanding to this issue. For months on end now we've done nothing but fight all day every day. We needed a translator just to say the weather was nice outside:-( I said all that to say that my husband is now back in FL and "UNDECIDED" on the issue of us. Hmph! I know God's will concerning our marriage. I know that my husband has a lot to sort out. Many, many emotions. You know you hear testimonies about people that had afflictions healed instantly? Well, I can tell you true as I'm sitting here that God instantly opened my eyes to my part in the demise of this relationship and I have been on a crusade ever since to re-align myself w/His will, trusting that all else will follow in His time. So, w/ that enlightenment--I am doing much much self-analyzation and correction. I have even shared w/my husband that I will move to FL in June (our lease is up and other circumstances would keep me here in NC until then) if that is what it would take to make this marriage work in his eyes. Though, that is 7 months away. 7 months to put the healing and growth of this marriage on track. I know that we could both do much work on ourselves in the meantime, but this healing and growth should be together...the space in time and miles is an allowance for way too many more things to enter into the equation. I hope that none of you have gone blind from reading all this. Your prayers would be greatly appreciated!! For my patience, and for God to touch my husband's heart and mind to where he is no longer "UNDECIDED" so that we can begin to travel that journey that God has set aside for us...together! Thank you!!!!

I truely believe in the mutual agreement that the marriage Builders talk about. Especially about big issues like ,ovomg states... I am sure you know this! However, I am concerned that you are willing to put this move on hold 7 months. NOTHING should be more important than saving your marriage. By not moving back to be with him an dwork on you rmarriage you are telling him that there are even more things that come first. Obviously god comes first... but your Husband comes next. NOTHING ELSE> My husband is in ministry too and We truely believe that God would never call him away from his family to do ministry... You need to give that part of you up if it's time to be with your husband. I will pray definately... Reconciliation should be the # 1 issue... God will take care of the lease and anything else you feel is more important.
Return to your husband.

Hello Dave's Girl!! Thank you for your response. Again, prayers are what it in order!! Maybe I didn't state clearly--my husband is "UNDECIDED" on the reconciliation issue and just plopping down on his family's doorstep would not be the wisest step at this point. Also, I'm almost positive I didn't share this in the original post--> BEFORE I knew he was leaving I had put my notice in at my job. I go to school FT and get paid by the military to do so. THAT is how bills will be taken care of. We are in a lease until June among other obligations here in NC. I'm praying that God deal w/his heart which is full of bitterness and anger; that he shifts from being "UNDECIDED" to "DECIDED." To God be the Glory! If he wanted me there now, I'd be in my car in a jiffy:-) God Bless You and your prayers are appreciated. Min