In September, 2002 I married a wonderful, godly man who is totally in love with me and as I have recently seen, will do anything for me. Soon after we returned from the honeymoon, I began doubting our 'connection' and have all but come to the conclusion that I may not be in love with him. We went through pre-marital counseling, and kept ourselves pure through the entire courtship. I'm fearful that I married him because of the wonderful father and husband he would be, but not because I was truly in love with him. I tried to make a logical, mature decision based on facts, not emotions, and now I'm doubting my decision. I feel like we don't have enough fun just being with eachother and like we do not 'connect' like I do with other people. My uncle is a Dr. and suggested I take anti-depressants, as I was becoming very depressed and anxious about my decision. I have been on them for several months now and it is helping with the depression, but I don't know if its changing my mind about being in love. I don't believe that these lack of feelings are due to him not meeting my emotional needs, because he does (unless being fun is an emotional need)...He is willing to do anything to try and make it better, but he's truly not doing a thing wrong. I'm willing to do whatever it takes, and trust the Lord can make me fall in love with him, knowing that I sought His will the whole time. I would love to hear of a success story of a marriage beginning like this.

Just hang in there, I went through the same thing after I was married. 2 books that really helped were "The Power Of A Praying Wife" by Stomie O'Martin and "Lifemates" by David and Janet Congo. The Power teaches you to pray for your Husband and Lifemates is about building a lasting marriage it also focuses a lot on "even if you married for the wrong reasons."
I still sometimes have those feelings "do I really love him?" And yes I do, but when I start feeling like that I have learned to take it to the Lord and ask him to restore my love. This might be hard but another thing you could do is sit down with your H and talk to him about this, I just tell my H how I am feeling (9 out of 10 times) He feels the same, we pray together for forgiveness both from the Lord and from eachother. I find it is very hard to fully love someone if you feel guilty about something.

If you do talk about this with your H pray first for the right words to say and for your H to understand and be receptive. Even if he doesn't feel the same, if he loves you as much as you say then he may already know you are having these feelings. If you didn't love him you would never have married him.
I will keep you in my prayers..

May God Blees, Keep, and Restore You