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My girlfriend of 3 years recently revealed to me she had sex with another man while I was gone. I was in another state for three or four months because I broke my femur in a car accident. She feels terrible about the affair and wants to stay together. The tricky part is that we were "on a break" when the affair occured, so technically she didn't cheat, right? I am confused and hurt, but I love this woman. Before this, I was sure she would someday be my wife. I am only 22, so I have never been in a similar situation (nor do I ever hope to be again!) Soon my leg will be healed and I will return to school in her town. What should I do? She will barely speak with me because she feels so bad, so I have no one to talk to. Any responses would be awesome. Thanks.
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No she DID cheat on you since she wants to continue to be your GF. BUT let's give her credit for being forthcoming with the truth of her A (she could have decided to hide it from you and you would probably never have found about it).
I would humbly suggest to you that (if you still want a relationship with her) you make it known to her that as a condition for continuing with the relationship, that she seek counseling to determine what issues caused her to have an A in the first place. It's important because if you and her plan on getting married, these issues need to be resolved, otherwise history may repeat itself.
Good luck.
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