When I first met G he said that the one thing that frightened him about a commitment was that he never wanted to be a burden on his partner in the event that he became an unable to care for himself. He thought that it would be unfair to his spouse and their quality of life. When his best friend got cancer the topic came up again along with all the fears. His fiend died this week and G has attended the funeral in another state. His email said that he would probably need time to think things through. My question is... is this a way of not committing oneself to a marriage? What alternatives are there to building a comfort level to share ones life with another for a life time?