I have been married for 3 1/2 years to a wonderful man. I consider myself medium-high sex drive. From the beginning, my husband has a bad habit of sleeping on the couch with the t.v. on. It started out just a couple of times a week. But, became an everyday occurrence after 6 months. He is affectionate and complimentary. But, this has dramatically affected our frequency of sex and my sex drive. We had many arguments about it at first. But, I thought going the non-nagging route would make it better. It didn't. He's had several excuses and I've tried to bargain with him. When we do have sex, he has a hard time sustaining control since it's been at least a week or two between times and he immediately returns to the couch. I've had a hard time remaining enthusiastic about sex because of infrequency and quality. Last night, I discovered him masturbating in the bathroom downstairs. I suspect he's taking the no muss, no fuss route because he doesn't want to deal with me being disappointed when he returns to the couch. I don't know what avenue to take now. I don't see it getting better until he decides to make an effort with coming to bed. We have two teenage boys, so me making trips to the couch is risky. Any suggestions?