My husband recently started to move his things out of our home, which was a home I owned before we married, to a summer house in Mexico he purchased with money before we married. We always kept things separate based on my wishes. I have two children by a previous marriage, a larger and more expensive home than he had, and I continue to work to maintain these things every day. My husband on the other hand was never married, has no children, sold his home and is living off the money from the sale of his home until he reaches social security age. He is 50 and has been retired for the past 15 years. He has no desire to go back to work and contribue to a family and would like to live at the beach until I finish raising my children and can retire with him there. I am 48 and my children are 12 and 14. In 6 years they will both be off to college and I will continue to work at least until that time, probably long past that as the children will need help in school financially. Then they are on their own. My main concern is when my husband and I married 4 years ago, we said we would keep our mountain home and start to build our retirement home on the beach, then move there when ready after the children leave the nest. My husband's property at that time was an income property and that is how he made his share of the income. I agreed to this and we married. Then he changed the idea in midstream. Once we acquired the beach property, he began to go there more and more for longer periods of time. Now he is moving there permanently with a possible weekend here and there back at this house. He does not want to spend even a week in the snow as he is miserable here. My question is, would a man who loved his wife and step-children do this? Is he miserable with he weather or us? I just don't know what to think about it all. He wants me to spend the money to visit him at the beach, but I work full time and am going back to school for my master's this fall which will be more than enough to handle emotionally and financially. This was a planned reentry into education by the way that I put off for a couple of years, but decided to go ahead with my plans when I realized he was slowly but surely leaving our family. He says things like being together 1 weekend a month would be fine and that we could have a good interdependent relationship based on this amount of time. I would like a husband present and in our home as well as intimately in our relationship and there for the children. Would anyone think I am being crazy to think divorce is on the horizon for us? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />