I was dating a girl and have tried to end it. She is calling my cell phone and threating me. She is also telling me that she is going to make up stuff to hurt my business and that she is going to get me. SHe does not have any contact with me from my point. She just leaves messages and today, she came to my job crying and upset. She says that she knows that I am not the one for her, but how could I hurt her like I have (I am the one who broke up). Here are my fears with this woman:
1. SHe makes up lies and it hurts my business.
2. SHe makes up lies to my pastor and friends from church.(Friends from church set me up with another girl so she does not really like my friends from church)
3. Fear that she would make somethign up to the law.
4. Fear that she gets her kids to lie about me and maybe say somethign happened.
5. Fear that she would actually do physical harm to me (She has actually jumped on me and hit me).

THe main thing is she knows and I know that we are not right for each other, I just had the good luck of finding someone to date before she did. She is hurt and wants me to feel as bad as she does. SHe says the reason she hurts that bad is because she has never loved someone as much as me. I am just not in love with her and do not think I could be married to a person who is so vindictive and "evil".

P.S. She called the person who set me up from church at that persons work and gripped them out for setting me up with antoher girl

I just want to know how to have the cleanest break.

M=====

Have you thought of a restraining order? That might help.

I once dated a guy who said I couldn't break up with because of all he was going through. I believe my response, at the young age of 16, was don't ever call me again. That seemed to work then, but that was 20 years ago.

Good Luck

Definitely get a restraining order against her. You start the paper trail, and have evidence of each contact she makes to you. This weakens her case should she make something up for the authorities. Try to get evidence of her threats to make something up about your business. Then, if/when she does, you can file a slander suit.

If this is the same woman as in your other post where you are financially supporting her as she has quit her job in order to be a stay at home mom, it sounds like you have a lot to deal with.

If you are living with this woman, get out. And get a restraining order.

If you are not living with her, block her calls and emails, and do anything you can to disentangle yourself. And get a restraining order.

There are not red flags in this relationship. There is a red blanket over it.

But my advice is worth what you paid for it.

I had a very difficult time with an ex of mine. I told him that if he bothered me any more (ie showing up at my work, unpleasant phone calls)that I would get a restraining order. It wouldn't hurt to tell her that you've already talked to the police or a laywer so she takes you more seriously.
Some people just don't get it. Have you told her that it's over and there's never a chance again? If not now's the time to do it. It dosn't need to be mean either, just let her know it just won't work.
It's good you realized it before you let it go to far.

Well ,looks like the woman is in some false hopes of getting u back.Invite her for dinner/lunch by preappointment with a friendly atmosphere.Be calm but assertive without any emotional outbursts.Tell her firmly that you are no more attached to her emotionally or otherwise and her longing for you would mean wasting her time and energy and that she might find someone really good and affectionate as she wants.Also assure her of your friendly relations with her adding she is a good person but you two are incompatible.
Good luck