Hello everyone!! I have never done anything like this before, but I really need some advice. My wife and I have been married for 3years. In August of 2002 she moved out. She came back in 6 weeks and I thought everything was going good. In Feb 03 she moved out again. She came back in about 6 weeks again. Well she moved out again in Aug 03 and is still gone today. She is living with her mom, who by the way hates my guts. My wife has a 6 year old that is her son and my wife and I have a 17 month old. She keeps saying that she is not happy and not in love with me anymore. She is very confused. She has not got the divorce papers yet, nor has she set up any counseling. She did finally set up some counseling for her son. She says her reasons for leaving me are because of the way I did her son and not really being there for her. There isn't any kind of abuse or cheating or anything like that. I really believe that she has low self esteem and that her mom is playing a part in our separation. I am seeking some advice in how to get through this myself and what I can do to help get her to counseling. Any advice will be greatly appreciated.

indygreg,

First I would like to welcome you to Marriage Builders. I know that you are going through a pretty rough time right now. I also had ILs that really didn't like me and I agree that puts a strain on any relationship. You need to read all that you can from this week site. I would start with Plan A/B and go from there. Also, I think that you would get more responses and great advice if you posted on the General Questions Board.

Indy