My husband and I were married in March and have been fighting ever since. It almost seems like he has stopped trying to be nice to me or to consider my feelings now that we are no longer dating. I often cry and tell him how unhappy I am with our marriage, especially the way he speaks to me and ignores me in the evenings when he comes home from work. He is in denial, refuses to admit anything is wrong and calls me "crazy" and "insensitive" for even suggesting that he is doing anything wrong or that I should be unhappy in this marriage. I dont know how to make things better, or at least make myself happier when he refuses to admit anything is wrong, and tries to make me feel bad for discussing my feelings. He says that counseling is out of the question and is completely defensive when I tell him specific things that he does that hurt my feelings....how do I get him to understand or at least, how can I make this a less miserable situation for myself? We are temporarily living in the middle of nowhere because of his job and I have no friends to hang out with and my closest friends and family are at least 5 hours away!!

Print out the Emotional Needs and Love Busters Questionnaires and complete them with your husband. Purchase the book "Love Busters" and read this book. Ask your husband to also read it.

He sounds like a horrible man who doesnt deserve you or the efforts you are making for your marriage.

Try the things suggested above, and if he refuses and the situation carries on, seriously consider whether you want to carry on wasting your time.

Good luck. X

horrible man?

unlikely.

Clueless?

YES!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by EinNC:
<strong> My husband and I were married in March and have been fighting ever since. It almost seems like he has stopped trying to be nice to me or to consider my feelings now that we are no longer dating. I often cry and tell him how unhappy I am with our marriage, especially the way he speaks to me and ignores me in the evenings when he comes home from work. He is in denial, refuses to admit anything is wrong and calls me "crazy" and "insensitive" for even suggesting that he is doing anything wrong or that I should be unhappy in this marriage. I dont know how to make things better, or at least make myself happier when he refuses to admit anything is wrong, and tries to make me feel bad for discussing my feelings. He says that counseling is out of the question and is completely defensive when I tell him specific things that he does that hurt my feelings....how do I get him to understand or at least, how can I make this a less miserable situation for myself? We are temporarily living in the middle of nowhere because of his job and I have no friends to hang out with and my closest friends and family are at least 5 hours away!! </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Where are you at the moment? I'm kind in the same boat. I followed my husband to Finland temporarily b/c of his job and I'm so lonely and bored. He's working 12-14 hours here so I never get to see him. I have joined about 4 different forums and several chat sites. This is where I get my communicating out cause my hubby is never around. I feel your pain dear.

What kind of a person works 12+ hour work days in FINLAND???? Most Europeans get vacation and work schedules that I'd kill for! Tell him to chill out and go hit one of those spas you're always hearing about.