Me and my fiance just found each other again after a two year separation. Well we haven't dated in over fifteen years but we have been best friends since than. When we found each other again he was in a relationship with someone else. He left that person and moved back to the state that I live in. But he spends a lot of time in the state that she lives in because that is where he works. My problem is I asked him to tell me whenever he has contact with her. He told me that he would try. Well right now he feels that everytime he tells me about her that I overreact. So he has gone to keeping it to his self and I find out later. My main issue is that how can I marry someone who feels that it is better to keep things from me than "listen to me fuss" as he puts it. He feels that it is a lack of confidence on my part and that I feel that he is going to leave me and go back to her. A little history about myself is that I went through eight years of lying and cheating on the part of my ex-husband. So yes I do have trust issues. I can't be with another man that I can't trust. My fiance has not given me any reason not to trust him with her but I don't feel like I am asking a lot by wanting to know if he is having contact with her. He doesn't hear anything that I am saying. All he is thinking is I have a lack of confidence in him. I don't know what to think about that. I can see his point and my own, but we can't seem to find a common ground.