Hi,
Let me start off by saying that I feel so relieved, knowing that there are people out there who have similar problems in their marriage. I've been blaming myself for the way my husband treats me, thinking that maybe I'm just not a good wife. Finding this website has put me at ease a little.
I've been married for 11 months. When my husband and I were dating, things were better than ever. We hardly argued and when we did, we would resolve it and be done with it. He made me feel like I was the most important thing in the world to him and since we got married, everything has changed.
All the little things he use to do for me stopped. Instead of resolving issues with me right away, he'll let them go on for days because he can't accept responsibility for his actions and just say sorry. When I bring something to his attention that bothered me, he gets defensive right away and tells me how stupid I am for feeling the way I do. I feel like I can't talk to him about anything because I'm afraid he'll think I'm stupid and then a situation that could be easily resolved turns into a 3-4 day fight because he's so stubborn. Since I got married, I feel like our relationship has gone backwards. I have compromised myself so much....I make the effort to change the things about me that bother him so we don't argue about them again but he's not taking the time to do the same. I just feel like he doesn't care enough about me and that's why he's not making an effort.
We just had a talk about 20 minutes ago. I told him that I feel like he doesn't respect me and it makes me feel so small. He sat there for a couple of minutes and then asked me if that was all I had to say. I said yes and then he left. I feel like I can't take it...I can't be married to someone who doesn't care about how I feel. Has anyone ever had this problem and got through it? Any advice would be appreciated...I don't know what to do anymore. Thanks
