My exwife and I have become "boyfriend" and "girlfriend" again. We have been apart 2 years and she seems devoted to the relationship but last week a friend of mine advised me that my "girlfriend" and her fiance had been having phone conversations. Her boyfriend and my "girlfriend's" brother are good friends so I initially thought the friend was over-reacting. However I have since learned that my "girlfriend" and the OM have actually had met semi-secretly. To further compound things the OM told my friend that he had talked to me and that I did not have a problem with his and my "girlfriend's" conversation and ontact......this is not true. I have not talked with this man about the contact between him and my "girlfriend". The couple has broken up because of this. I have not discussed this with my "girlfriend" because I have no solid proof of infidelity even though I suspect that there has been. How should I handle this since.....do I need to confront my "girlfriend" with this info, let it go, or do I need to open my eyes wide and move on.

If I were advising myself in that situation, I would tell myself or want someone to say open your eyes and move on.

However, I know what it is like to be in love and not listen. I am in a marraige where my husband gives me less than 10 minutes of any time and wants sex and everything to be done... he said he wanted a family, I got pregnant, he flipped out, wanted nothing to do with me, came to my sono drunk, threw me...

now things are a little better but people predicted things bad but not even this bad and when I am lonely like now, I wish that I would have listened. We have a child that he hands back when she cries...

If you wonder how many other fish there are out there, go to Yahoo singles and see. I wish I would have browsed that for a reality check when I was single and thinking I would never be married again.