Well monday is my 2 year anniversary of signing that little paper that is suppose to bond 2 people together forever. It's been quite a ride and at this point I'm not sure that I can go on with it. We have each had EAs, failed to meet each others needs, and there have been multiple LBs.

My H and I decided to give it another shot about 4 months ago. He didn't come through and I just lost hope. Now he still wants to work on it and I'm not sure I can keep going with this. I don't like this man and I'm not sure if this short relationship where we have known each other for a bit over 3 years and us both being so young (22) can make it through this.

For me the relationship has become like roommates. We are not close in any area. I care about him, but to say I love him isn't something I can say I do or don't feel. I know that there is no romantic love.

I've lost my hope. Any help would be appreciated.

I'm probably confused. But are you saying that you both have made a diligent effort to apply MB principles (including Basic Concepts and so forth), and it's jus tnot working? Because the appearance of Lb's and such, sort of implies that the principles aren't being followed to closely.

Or are you just working on a wing and a prayer with the shotgun approach, hoping something works?

Lots of people want to save their marriages, but there are some right ways, and lots of wrong ways to go about it...

If you haven't truly applied the fundamental principles of MB, (Called Basic Concepts or BC for short), then you're missing out on one of the methods that's most likely to give you results.

You have the added bonus of both of you having affairs (EA's as I recall), which makes recovery more difficult. Not impossible, but more difficult.

So perhaps you're just wanting to vent, which is cool. But if you want real help, you're going to have to offer upa bit more info.