I find it easier to communicate in writing than to have a verbal conversation. When my H and i talk I feel like I always say the wrong things and I rather sit down and write how I feel and have him read it. He says that this is stupid, imature, and childish. Am I wrong for wanting to communicate more in writing?

Hi,
I don't think so. Some people find it a lot more easier to write down feelings and others find it easier expressing them rather than talking about them. Why in these days do people also write so many sms - you are often more sincere in a sms than talking to the person.
However communication is very important .. verbal communication and I think you should try to talk with him. I myself, am in a major crisis with my husband and wrote him this lovely letter expressing me deepest feelings and I don't think it touched him at all. He doesn't like neither writing nor reading. So I keep a diary - write down there what it is I feel or want to say .. then when I have thought about it I go have a conversation with my husband. No yelling or screaming.. just normal conversation/discussion.
Why don't you try that .. writing it down in a diary first...
But again the letters should not upset him... I mean you are bearing out your inner feelings to him. You are just being honest.

Thanks... I will buy a diary today and that way I will feel better atleast to know that I wrote it down first.

A Diary is a great way to help you communicate. I like that idea.

Nick

One more thing.
Giving someone a letter in the middle of a crisis situation is usually a very very very very bad idea. It is often read with hostility and misunderstandings.

Let the air cool down a little... ask how are you? Don't jump into the problem so quick....

Just a guys point of view.

Nick

Well, writing letters has worked for me so far.
I´m engaged but we have lived together and arguer over many things. I´ve realised that he doesn´t like confrontation and tends to run away every time I bring an issue, of worse if he stays, then he interrupts every time and we fall into endless discussions.

What I do is, tell him how much I love him, and that it´s better not to carry on talking, I´m such a chatty woman, I love speaking my feelings up as well as debate, but he doesn´t. So I write him letters that I know he´ll read carefully without any interruptions and then He can come to me to say what he thinks, so we fix the problem.

Just the way it works 4 me,

I guess sometimes you may need to talk and some others just write.

Carol