hello everyone, my wife and i recently seperated. we only just got back together after many years because of her cheating on me before, she showed up again at my door to tell me that god had told her to come back to me and quit commiting adultery and get her life straighted out, i was pleased because she is the only woman i ever loved, but because of her drinking and drugging and cheating we broke up so i thought at 42 she might have changed. well it lasted about 6 months before she started drinking again, then i found her doing drugs again,now she has left to live in a house with only male roommates. i have "and i feel stupid here" asked her no begged her to come back to me, she has said that she would only come back if i give her the freedom to do whatever she likes, including going out with other men. i am as devastated now as i was all those years ago, but miss her so much that i'm accually thinking about doing it, what kind of a loser would i be to allow my wife to go out and have sex with other men? what should i do? i;m sure this won't work, so why am i thinking about doing this? do'es anyone else have a problem like this? what did or would you do. i'm not sure i can get over her again with her living right up the street.

Well, what are you looking for, a life partner, who's focused on working with you in a relationship built on mutual respect and trust?

Or somebody who's just going to use you as a doormat while they go out and selfishly indulge their every sordid desire, and just run back to you for a breather every now and then, to regain their strength, before another dip in the pool of debauchery?

When you know the answer to that, you know the answer to your ?.

Marriages (true marriages), cannot be built in the presence of addictions. I would hope you would have enough self-respect to walk away. Better some momentary pain, then constant stabbings.