To Anyone who reads this;

my name is michelle...im 21 and have been married for almost 7 months...and to be honest the though of divorce has come to my mind many times in the past few months...my husband and i cant really spend too much time together w/o it ending up with us fighting like cats and dogs...his ex wife and his kids always seem to be at the center of the issues ( i love the kids by the way...they are my favorite part of the marriage) our sex life has went from getting nookie in the bathroom while the kids are watching spongebob to me asking is tonight a good night?...and he always has this knack of acting a it on the superior side when it comes to my shortcomings...a traite hes only recently started possessing...im scared i dont want my marriage to fail but i feel like i've ran out of options...someone please help me...you can contact me here or by my email address SexxieShellie@aol.com

thanks in advance

regretful

I think you guys should sit down and talk about what´s going on. 21 seems too young to be married and if he´s got an ex wife...how old is he?

Well, I suppose he may be thinking you are not mature enough which it may be true, but do not quit.
Fight together and talk openly on what you both need to recover the lovely times you´ve lost.

Take care!

Hi. I'm new here, so if you don't recognize me, I apologize. Reading your story was pretty interesting. A really good friend of mine recently married and she's your age. The guy was "perfect" and wonderful etc etc etc. She never knew what anyone was talking about when they said, "the first year is the hardest, after that, you're both too tired to fight with each other." I think that might be what's happening in your relationship. See, all the stuff you're talking about just sounds like a little emotional distance to me. He sounds a bit annoyed and you're walking on eggshells... if I were you, I'd give him some space, and then bring it up when you're both in a good mood. "Heya love, why do we fight all the time?" Of course, try to avoid the demanding tone, so as to avoid the "BECAUSE OF YOU" response <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Are a member of a Church (or Synagogue) ? I would consider seeking one out ,and then look for some weekly small group opportunities with other married couples where you can learn and grow together in a Godly way. Perhaps also turn off the TV for 30 days forcing you all to talk/ notice each other more, and reducing the 'negative' inputs that generally come from TV. If that creates dead time, then pick out Christian marriage books to read. All the best to you !