Just when I think I have come to grips with the fact that I will never speak to the OW again, she IM's me at work.<P>ARRRRGGGGH!<P>A WEEKS WORTH OF EMOTIONAL WRESTLING - BLOWN!<P>I feel like I'm back in square one! Help

Hi, Pleeeease don't reply to her. Just my cents worth, but getting in touch with her is really going to put you way back to the beginning again.

Apollo13 - Be strong. You can do this. Ignore her. Go away. Take a walk. DO ANYTHING ELSE BUT COMMUNICATE WITH HER!!!!<P>Every time you say no, you're making yourself stronger. You know that. I know it's hard, just hang in there. You're doing a good thing.<P>I'm pulling for you.<P>Lori

apollo13,<P>Hey, you sound quite alot like me. I had an emotional affair as well (no sex). My OW broke it off after my wife discovered what was going on (this was back in late June). I worked with her and it was so painful that I had to find another job!<P>I know totally how you feel about her contacting you. Blammo!!! <P>Try to stick by your guns. I know how difficult it is. I fell off the wagon tons of times. Sometimes I initiated contact, sometimes she contacted me and I responded. It's been awhile now, but I'm still unsure what I would do if she contacted me. This whole withdrawal things sucks! I'm better now, but back in July/August/Sept I was a complete mess. Totally depressed.<P>So let me ask you -- what do you want to do about your marriage? Does your wife know about your Emotional Affair? Have you talked about how she can start meeting the needs that you thought she couldn't meet before? Is she willing to try? Are you willing to try to find your feelings for her again? Lots of questions... sorry!<P>Anyway, this forum is a real life saver, believe me. Use it all you can!<P>--andy

If you're using AOL go to Privacy Preferences and block her.<P>One less excuse

Think about the alcoholic that sees a drink after he's been sober for a while, yet still has a desire to drink. He says to himself if I don't touch it it won't get in me. I MUST NOT DRINK NO MATTER WHAT!!!<P>Hang In,<P>Bill

Thanks for all the support. I am using AIM so I think I can block her SN. At the same time, something inside me is screaming not to. Addiction?<P>As far as my marriage? Wife doesn't know about this. We've had alot going on...I don't want her to have to deal with this too.<P>Maybe I'm being unfair, but I really need to deposit ALOT of love units in her love bank. And I need her to deposit some in mine, too.<P>Our balances are dangerously low right now. Something like this could put an end to our marriage.<P>I just want this affair to die and go away...