I was involved in an inappropriate friendship/beginning of an EA which was stopped just before it became too serious. The whole process was very hard and painfull to me, but I've learned big lessons. (Whole story posted in "Recovery" column on 17th of January). The following is not really a poem or something I wrote myself, but I want to share the contents because it is very true, inspiring and uplifting. It was of great value to me and I believe it's a reflection of how my metal, emotional and spiritual attitude towards this process I have been going through is supposed to be. From time to time when I experience negative feelings and depression again, I read it to help me keep my focus:
~SOMETIMES~
Sometimes people come into your life
and you know right away that they were meant to be there,
to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson,
or to help you figure out who you are or who you want to become.
You never know who these people may be
(possibly your roommate, neighbor, professor,
long lost friend, lover, or even a complete stranger),
but when you lock eyes with them,
you know at that very moment they will affect your life in some profound way.
And sometimes things happen to you that may seem horrible, painful, and unfair at first, but in reflection you find that without overcoming those obstacles you would have never realized your potential, strength, willpower, or heart.
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime…
When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON
It is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are!
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part, or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met,
our desire fulfilled, their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered.
And now it is time to move on.
Then people come into your life for a SEASON
Because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season…
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons:
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
The people you meet who affect your life, and the success and downfalls you experience,
help to create who you are and who you become.
Even the bad experiences can be learned from.
In fact, they are probably the most poignant and important ones.
Everything happens for a reason.
Nothing happens by chance or by means of good luck. Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness,
and sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of your soul.
Without these small tests, whatever they may be,
life would be like a smoothly paved, straight, flat road to nowhere.
It would be safe and comfortable, but dull and utterly pointless.
Life is an unceasing process of change.
Just as the seeds of the poppy fall back to the earth,
only to flourish yet again,
so too, will the proverbial circle of life touch our own existence.
Hardships may indeed befall us,
but the ebb and flow of life energy prods us to survive.
The Bible say: "To everything there is a season,
and a time to every purpose under the sun.
A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant,
and a time to pluck up that which is planted..."
Whether we are experiencing the death of a loved one,
an ended relationship, or grief for the past,
as incomprehensible as it may seem, life does go on.
Troubling circumstances and heart-wrenching situations
may inwardly tear at our heart and cause us to feel like crumbling,
but let us not forget that even in cemeteries grow flowers, grass and trees. Death, be it in the loss of friend or loved one,
or mourning for a relationship or friendship failed, indeed has its sting,
but as long as Christ promises us hope, life shall not cease.
God's grace is as a healing hand.
As does the sweet scent of the poppy linger in the air, the warm memories and love for those we have lost will remain always safe in our hearts.
If someone hurts you, betrays you, or breaks your heart forgive them,
for they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to when you open your heart. If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, not only because they love you, but because in a way,
they are teaching you to love and how to open your heart and eyes to things.
Make every day count.
Appreciate every moment and take from those moments everything that you possibly can for you may never be able to experience it again.
Talk to people that you have never talked to before, and actually listen.
Let yourself fall in love, break free, and set your sights high.
Hold your head up because you have every right to.
Tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself,
for if you don't believe in yourself, it will be hard for others to believe in you.
You can make of your life anything you wish.
Create your own life and then go out and live it with absolutely no regrets. Life is about living, and that is why God offered us His Son, so that we may have eternal life. A life without Christ will rob one of salvation,
but with Him, all things are possible!
