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#335115 09/06/03 11:07 AM
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I usually dont share my poems, but I am curious as to what people think. Please tell me your honest thoughts. Thanks.

Stay
You say you love me
But you never show,
Why am I supposed to stay?

You say you need me
But don’t tell me why.
So why am I supposed to stay?

Am I just a trophy?
Am I just a warm body?
Am I someone special?

You say don’t leave
That you can’t live without
Why should I stay?

They say if you love something to let it go
If it comes back that’s how you know
Its for keeps, its for sure.

But you wont let go,
You wont talk
You just yell and control

Why am I supposed to stay?
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#335116 09/08/03 10:45 AM
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I understand about not sharing your poems It's very rare that I share any of mine. In fact other than church mine only go out when someone is hurting in a way that I can relate to and use the poem to give to them what God gave to me through them.
After reading about your family and the emotions you shared in your poem, it sounds like there might be a lot of pain going on in both departments- H&W. I know that for three years my H would not share anything about feelings - needs or otherwise. It would seem that maybe some counseling to help get through the grief of an angel in the family might help get the two of you back closer. Let me know how you feel.

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#335117 09/10/03 08:54 AM
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Thanks RMW
I think H and I are both going to go to counseling when he gets back home (he is TDY right now). Together and Separetly (sp?). Hopefully then we will be able to talk about our angel and everything else. He actually talked to me the other night about our angel. And he has been to my website I made for her. He told me, it made him cry and that he didn't talk about her bc he thought I needed someone to stay strong for me, i told him I did but I also needed someone to grieve with. I think he understood that.
Thanks for reading my poem and responding
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#335118 09/13/03 11:20 PM
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I can relate to your poem. I am the H and also a BS. For many years I too couldn't explain or act on my emotions other than to get angry and upset. My family growing up would only get upset, that was the only emotion we ever shared. So, I brought that into my M with me.

It wasn't until my W had her A that I understood the depth of my problem. W and I are both in counseling to better ourselves so we can enrich our M.

Anyway, I ramble on... I hope both of you can get into counseling and that both of you study the MB concepts and put them to work in your M. I am sorry for your pain. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

BTW: I now know that it is OK for a man to cry and W has seen me do it also.

BTW X2: I spent several minutes trying to figure out your sig line, W took only 10 seconds...
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Thanks for reading my poem. H and I are going to go to counseling. Especially me to help me deal with the loss of my baby (i had a miscarriage at 10weeks. very depressed since then). When I first read my sig line, it took me a while to figure it out too. I had to keep saying it outloud, then it makes sense. I get people on other boards asking me "what does it say?"

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