About 2 years ago my husband was hurt really bad by some people at our church(some of them were even close friends). Since that time his attitude towards life has changed. He has become self centered to the point of having an affair and not really seeing any bad in it. He has recently said that he realizes that there is no God and this(the life we have right now) is all we get. Please pray for him, pray that he will see the errors of his ways, pray that God will reveal Himself to my husband in a way that is indisputable. Pray for healing in his heart for the hurt caused at the church and for help in forging those that hurt him.<P>------------------<BR>I am holding my heart out to you and ask only that you receive it and give me yours in return.<BR>Nicole

I understand. My H now says he's not so sure that there is a life after this. <P>We spent every Sat. in a very legalistic church which even shunned outside friends. No holidays, no doctors, no makeup, sunset to sunset, Holy Days, 3 tithes, you leave and you'll never see the next life, you get the picture. The best thing we ever did was leave. But it started him into a downhill spiral. He's been out of church 3 or 4 years now, and his affair and his return to chatting and getting ready to meet someone else has him convinced he needs help. He had to come to that conclusion himself.<P>He's now ready to return to church (a normal church, and it won't be our whole life, but a means to get close to God) and he wants to talk to the minister there about our marriage. I pray that your husband sees that he's at the bottom and wants to get help for himself. I told my H that he was on the path where we were heading apart from each other, and he doesn't want that. <P>Now, if we can just get him up on his feet so we can get there. Major back problems right now. Will pray for you. -- Cheryl

Thanks-all prayers help. I will keep you and your husband in my prayers as well.<P>------------------<BR>I am holding my heart out to you and ask only that you receive it and give me yours in return.<BR>Nicole

My husband had what I call a "spiritual breakdown" last fall. Much like a nervous breakdown but in the spiritual realm.<P>He recently went back to church for the first time in a year. He still struggles with certain issues with God but he is more rational now.<P>Two books that were recommended to us were Phillip Yancey's "Dissappointment with God" and "What's So Amazing About Grace".<BR>They have been a tremendous help to us.<P>I realized your husband is probably not to the point of reading either of them but they may help you to help him. <P><BR>I also want to say that it was a very difficult time for our family but God has used it to benefit our entire family. We learned a lot about each other that we didn't know and we've been together for 15 years.<P>God is graciuos. I will certainly pray for you and your family.<P>CHH