I am 31 yrs old and have been married for 10 yrs. I have a 5 yr old son and a beautiful wife who I love both very much. Recently (about a month) My wife told me our Marrriage was over, She wants to file for seperation for 1 yr( required in NC) and then a Divorce. I only want 2 things i want in life right now and they are Jesus and her. My son was very saddened any time we talk about me living somewhere else. I am still living at home for now but (here is the clioncher) I am a Marine with a Marine Expeditionary Unit and I leave for a 6 month deployment in February and that is when she plans on moving to her own place and making the move away from me. We are still friends but we are not intimate at all. She says she has not had intimate feelings for me for a long time but just before I left for my most recent trip away she reffered to her self as my lover. She went to a ball with a "friend" who she is now attracted to. I allowed the ball night out because I thought I could trust her and I thought our Marriage was more stable. I was wrong and she claims it was not this that ended it. She says I am not the same man and she is not the same Woman and we have grown apart and she sees no hope but I do ...in Jesus. She gets angry when I tell her I believe that esus will heal our Marriage . I had prayed the morning before she told me (when I was at church alone) that she and I could find more spiritual commitment together and I was also praying that God would ehlp me prioritize my life. Well I am confused and hurting worse than I ever have If I could quit the Marine Corps and be with her I would but I can not get out until august...I have to go or go crazy or go to jail. I only Pray that we can recover and our Marriage will be healed .Please Pray for Her that will find a closer walk with Jesus , My son that will not scar him and for me that I will have Patience, Peace, and be able to truly do God's will in my life. I am in the worse pain of my life <BR><p>[This message has been edited by lowestpoint (edited December 18, 1999).]

Lowestpoint - I will pray for you and your wife. God will be with you during this trial. He can and will restore your wife's love for you. Is your wife a Christian? If not, it might be better not to say anything direct to her about the Lord if it makes her angry. Instead pray that the Lord soften her heart towards you and fill her heart with love for you. My husband used to tell me similar things, like he was not "in love" with me, didn't care what I did, told me he didn't love me, wanted a divorce and said he didn't want to waste anymore time with me because he wanted to start his live over. He left, I filed for divorce, made up my mind it was over and decided to go on with my life without him. Did not have contact with him for 6 weeks. But, during this time, I would pray with my son and we would say a prayer for his Dad. One night when my husband brought our son home from a visitation, he had my son come in and tell me H wanted to talk to me. I refused. H wouldn't leave - had son ask again for me to talk to him, so I did. He wanted to know if I really wanted a divorce and was there any way we could try to work things out. I told him I doubted it because of what H had done to me in the past. Anyway to make a long story short, my husband realized he did love me, wanted to come home, and wanted to save his marriage. He has been home for 3 months now, tells me he loves me and says he is "in love" with me, says he wants us to be together always. I truly believe he has feelings for me now because of the prayers I said for him. Yes, he still drinks, a lot. He's not a Christian either, and made it clear a long time ago he didn't want me "preaching" at him, so I don't .. I just silently pray. God will work this out in His time. <P>When we began discussing reconciliation, I began praying for the Lord to give my husband love for me. I still pray for this every day. What's different is what I see in his eyes when he looks at me. It is a softer look, not the hard, cold-hearted look he had before we separated. God is at work in his life. He will work in your wife's life too. Don't give up faith.

Heavenly Father, I pray for you to heal this marriage relationship. Draw this wife close to you and turn her heart back to her husband. I pray for your protection for this little son. Lord, strengthen this husband, give him your peace as he trusts in you for his family.

Father God we put our trust in your wisdom and timing. Grant us wisdom and maturity as this face this ordeal. We know you share the burden we're facing and we pray lord that this family will be strengthed by strengthening our reliance on you. Lord we know that with you all things are possible for righteous men. Cleanse our hearts of all unrighteousness of any hidden anger or resentment. Help us to not be anxious and to wait for our wives in quiet confidence that you direct their paths. Thank you lord for our wives, bless them and keep them from any harm. In Jesus name Amen and Amen I like you have felt that fear, keep your chin up and visit <A HREF="http://www.rejoiceministries.org," TARGET=_blank>www.rejoiceministries.org,</A> its a wonderfull site with much to grab ahold of as we fight to keep our families together. Your brother in Christ Paul

I need evry warrior I can reach. I just admitted to being a porn addict and confronted my dad( who is a pastor) about the same because God told me that it was a sin past down from him. My Dad admitted it and we are free. My Wife has gone for a drive and just told me that she would rather be with another man and is openly refusing the word Of GOd and says she does not want to hear it ansd just wants to do what she wants to do. I am not afraid anymore but I still want her but I refuse to throw God's word away.<BR>Please PRAY PRAY PRAY. I fast every Saturday for this and will probably add another day.<BR>I pray that God wants this to work out but if he does not then so be it.<BR>Jesus is My Lord

First I want to thank you for the beautiful prayer for my sister and brother-in-law.<P>I also want you to know that I will contact my sister about your prayer request and she and I will both be praying for your family.<P>God bless.<P>CHH

I just wanted to say that I understand what you are going through. My husband wants a divorce. Time is windind down. In April, it will be a year of seperation for us and he'll be able to file for divorce. You see he's a Marine at Camp Lejeune too and he just got back in October from the med float. He now lives in the barracks. i live in Wilmington with our one year old. He comes home on weekends to see us. However he give me mixed signals sometimes. Or maybe I just think he does. I feel your pain, believe me I do. The way you and I have gotten to this point in our lives are different, however the pain is definitely the same.