I have finally found someone who I could call my soul mate. Someone, I can pray, worship and praise with. Someone who shares the same beliefs, goals and desires out of life. Unfortunately, his mother/parents do not feel the same way. Because the one difference we do have between us is the color of our skin. I am of Hispanic origin and he is 1/2 Irish and 1/2 English. His mother believes that God made people differently for a reason and that was to keep them separated. I always believed that God didn't judge a man by his outer layer, but by what was in his heart. I love this man w/all of my heart and I knew that loving someone outside of my race would be a challenge. We would have to face many obstacles that single race marriages may not have to face. We love each other enough to face them. He went and asked for his mother's blessing and she would not give it. I wanted to pray for her to open her heart, open it enough to see that the importance was love, not race. Also for her to see beyond the color of my skin. It's not my background, because I feel that I came from a good family and I'm an educated woman. I just want her to open her heart enough to see my heart and that it is filled with love for her son. Thank you for your time. If any of your have advice, I am open to hear your opinions.<P>Thank You!<P>

Texas, please remember, there is no gap that enough love cannot bridge, no wound that enough love cannot heal, no wrong that enough love cannot right, no wall that enough love cannot throw down. If we could only love enough, we would be the most powerful beings in the universe.<P>Remind him that God made us, male and female, and a man shall leave his mother and father and a woman shall leave her home, and the two shall be as on flesh.<P>It doesn't say that God made them Hispanic or Irish or English. It says he made them male and female and that they should cleave to one another - not to their parents! <P>How old is he? Old enough to make his own decisions? Good. Then, it is probably time for him to make some. You may not be able to change his parents' prejudices, but you may be able to save him from them.<P>As for his parents, remember, the best way to lose your enemies is to make them your friends. Enough love can win over everything. Love them. That's all.<P>Good luck, and God bless you in your noble endeavors. <P>------------------<BR>Anne46<BR>

<BR>I appreciate your advice. Lately, I feel that we can't win no matter what he and I do. My boyfriend told his parents to count on us getting married and to think about how they are going to deal with it because he loves me and wants to be with me. I felt like that was great because like you said it may be time for him to leave his parents, but THEY think the only reason he is making that choice is because I'm making him. They think I've put him under some kind of spell. <BR>One of their biggest complaints about me was that I treated him like he was incompetent, doing things for him all the time and taking care of him like a child. I never thought I treated him like a child and if I did do things for him it was because I did it out of love, I thought that is what you do when you love someone. They seem to think that I'm only doing it because I'm trying to get my claws into him, that I only want to date a white man to higher myself through the social ladder. I was so hurt when I heard this because if they knew me at all they would know I do not feel that way. I love my boyfriend for the person he is and I just pray that they will open their hearts enough to see my heart only has intentions to love their son. I honestly just don't know how to help them see my heart because as far as they are concern I don't exist and they do not want to deal with me until they have to. This is something I have to put in God's hands. Again, thank you for your advice. I just want his parents to see that I am not here to take their son, if any thing family is important and I do not want to take him away from his family. Again, I just want them to open their hearts. <P>Thank You,<BR>Yvonne <P>