To all,<P>We all share basically the same problem. Mostly infidelity, some of us have other issues. I want to share with you all some words of hope. <BR> In my search for peace from the hurt and pain that I was suffering, I didn't want to be in it all alone; I know that God was with me, giving me the strength daily to function on my job; but I wanted my H to suffer for what I felt was destruction to my life. After work every day, I couldn't wait to get in my car to cry. I could not stop thinking about him.<BR>I began to seek God for the right words to say in prayer. Knowing that God hates sin and my H was deep into a sinful, adultrous relationship, I begin to ask the Lord to trouble that relationship; to cause him to feel guilty for how he had let the Lord down and how he had betrayed my trust in him. I asked God to bring separation into that relationship; to treat it just as it was; something to be ashamed of. I asked him to destroy the bond that had developed between them. Reminding the Lord that he made a vow before him to love me forever. I asked the Lord to destroy that strong sexual desire that they had for one another, reminding him of his word in Hebrews 13:4a, "marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled; reminding him of Malachi 2:16, "for the Lord hates divorce"; I quoted God's word back to him in my prayers for the deliverance of my H constantly, never ceasing. <BR> One thing that I learned years ago as I became stronger in the word of God, long before my husband and I had met, God is faithful to those who call on him and trust in him; no matter how long we have to stay in the wilderness of pain; He is always there working all things together for our good. You see, through these storms of life, God allows them in order to draw us closer to him and learn to trust him more than life itself. To learn of and experience the richness of his love. He is the giver of life; of every good and perfect thing. Also, knowing that he's my heavenly father and that his desire is to equip his children with strength and to give power; the same power that he exerted when he raised Christ from the dead. It's ours. We have to get his promises into our spirits; into our inner man. Then we began to grow stronger; our prayers began to grow more powerful and our faith begins to increase to new heights.<BR>I also prayed for her. She divorced her husband for mine. I asked the Lord to return her to her own husband. In the book of Philipians, Paul addresses this issue in saying, "wives, love your OWN husbands". In Ephesians 5, "husbands love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it; I searched the scriptures for powerful prayers to petition God for on my H's behalf. <BR>I wanted to pray for my husband according to the will of God, so I searched the word for instruction. Colossians 1 starting around the 10th verse, Paul is praying for them to desire to please the Lord and to desire him; to seek his counsel. I prayed this prayer for my husband. <BR>I'm not preaching to you guys; just sharing what the spirit gave to me in my search for strength and God's will to be done in my marriage and praise the Lord, its all come to pass.<BR>I also prayed for the Lord to trouble his heart; reminded him that he was his child.<BR>Our heavenly father will give us the desires of our hearts. We have to have faith in him and even during these hurtful, painful times, we've got to force ourselves to believe his word, even when we don't feel like it. You see, God sees and knows the heart. If you continue to allow the enemy to cloud your minds with deceptive thoughts and keep your minds entangled on the situation, you'll loose sight of God; this is what he wants. <BR>We can't fight these spirits alone; we don't have the strength; but through Christ, we can do ALL things.<BR>Be encouraged, get into the word of God and let his word speak to your hearts and your situations.<BR>If its alcoholism, search the scriptures for overindugence. Ask the Lord to make them so sick that they feel as if their insides are coming out through the pores of their skins instead of the stench of the alcohol. <BR>God says in his word, search me and know my thoughts, try me and find that I am a faithful friend.<BR>May God bless all of you is my prayer; he will give you the desires of your heart, only learn how to delight yourself in him; not wallow in hurt; pain; despair.<BR>We are more than conquerors. . . . .<BR> <BR>Praying without ceasing....

What powerful words!!! And full of good tips too !! Thanks so much for being inspiring and helpful. It's nice to read good thoughts once in a while.<P>I found on post on the women's Bible Study forum. It said that the lady who posted (I'm sorry I don't remember who) prayed that God would counsel her husband while he slept. I too have started doing that. I've also prayed that God will make my H remember that he made a promise to love me forever and to forsake all others. It gives me alot of comfort to do this.<BR>

emani<BR>thanks..I needed that. You really have this thing figured out. I'm going to try to do just as you did. I have prayed those prayers some..but evidently not enough. Thank you.

emani, Thank You SO MUCH for posting these wonderful, inspiring words!! I was recently in the place you described that you were in, H was in adulterous affair, lost soul, OW divorced her H for mine.... Faith in God and incessant prayer have made a tremendous difference in my life, and my husband's life, whether he realizes it or not. I was in deep despair over all this, until I got my faith back. Praise God, he can do and does miracles!!! Our God is soooo powerful.<P>We reconciled 3 1/2 months ago. OW went back to her husband, my H sent her the no contact ever again letter. My husband had no withdrawal. Husband went to church with me, the first time in 14 years. H went to counseling with the pastor, the first time ever for him in his 42 years. Had always been adamantly opposed to counseling, especially if it had anything to do with church. These are all miracles in my book! <P>I truly believe none of this would have happened without the Lord's intervention, and prayer. Especially those prayers I have been saying with those all important three little words "CHANGE ME LORD". I can cope now, I have peace in my heart, my words come out calmly, Plan A comes naturally. Only GOD could have done this. He made this change in me. Yes, my husband still drinks. The miracle in this is He has shown me how I am to react to it. No more yelling, arguing or threats. It is in God's hands to handle now, not mine. I believe in God's miracles. <P>The Lord will help you, if you only ask. May I echo emani's words: PRAY WITHOUT CEASING.

Beautiful!!!!<P>------------------<BR>BB<BR>

This is so powerful and inspiring. Thank you for sharing your experience with praying the scriptures. You have challenged me to seek God's will for a particular stronghold in my H's life.<P>Blessings, Taj<P>------------------<BR>"Perfect love casts out fear" I John 4:18

Thank you for such inspiring words. I have handed my whole situation over to the Lord. He is the only one who can work in my H. The OW in my situation is also divorcing her H for mine. I have become so much closer to God through these horrible circumstances and I believe with all my heart that He will see me through. Thank you for inspiring me today, I really needed it.

God's grace to all of you. I thank him for giving me what was shared.<P>Remember.....perseverance in prayer; <P>Thanksgiving<P>Seeking the Lord with your WHOLE heart; not just the parts of you that are hurting; he is a rewarder to those that diligently seek him.<P>and also remember, He knows your heart....<P>Praying without ceasing.....

emani, what an inspiring post! Thank you. BTW, why don't you get "the Power of a Praying Wife" and join us at the Bible Study forum? We would love to have new members!<P>Mitzi, I am the wife who prays that God will "Instruct him even as he is sleeping" Psalm 16:7. They can't argue with dreams, and you wouldn't believe the powerful dreams my h. is having AND remembering. He has told me and his preacher brother about some really powerful spiritual dreams YEA!<P>thanks again emani!<P>liz\pearl<P>------------------<BR><BR>"I have found the Pearl of Great Price"<BR>

A strong and beautiful posting. Thank you for shareing it. In Jesus name amen.

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Your words have touched me deeply. It sounds horrible but it is a blessing to know that others have felt my pain and can give me inspiration. I have been clinging to the Word for four month plus now and I feel my strength is wavering. I know all the things you say are true and I know that this warfare is not against flesh and blood but the dark forces. It is still a rough road. You gave me inspiration, truly speaking with the mind and voice of Christ. Your words ministered to my wounds. Encrusted within my soul. I thank the Father everyday for the spirit he has given me within because my soul and body are weary. I creid while I read your testimony. I am trying so hard not to have a pity party for myself yet I feel that I have the right to express my feelings. I almost feel selfish because there are so many people out there experiencing as much hurt and anguish. It's almost like what right do I have to put my feelings on a pedestal. I feel better already. I know my feelings come and go. That's what's hardest. The strangest moments bring on flashbacks and the constant rollercoaster ride of emotions. The enemy works overtime trying to cloud my judgement but I must remember I have something stronger. The blood of Jesus and all I have to do is believe and have faith. An awesome task but one filled with blessings. I Praise my Father and give Him the Glory for all he has done and promises to do. Amen

tammy,<BR>Below are some more links to testimonials of the Power of Prayer.<BR> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum25/HTML/000206.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum25/HTML/000206.html</A> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum25/HTML/000198.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum25/HTML/000198.html</A> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum25/HTML/000130.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum25/HTML/000130.html</A> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum25/HTML/000158.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum25/HTML/000158.html</A> <P>And an article on spiritual warfare.<BR> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum25/HTML/000204.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum25/HTML/000204.html</A> <P>And a prayer for the battle.<BR> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum25/HTML/000103.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum25/HTML/000103.html</A> <P>God bless you, tammy.

For those that are new to the forum, this is a wonderful testimony of God answering prayer.<P>Blessings,<BR>AW

What a wonderful post.

Emani...........<P>I too have been praying very hard.... I'm very thankful for your post...<P>How is your marriage now....... are you and your back together??? just curious.......s

scoick/others,<P>Because God is faithful to his promises to reward those who diligently seek him in prayer, we are together again.<P>My testimony is very lengthy and I wish that I had the time to rehash it for you all. I posted for the first time to this site in October/November '98. At this time, after I'd found out about my H's infidelity, naturally, I made him leave; a decision that I regreted after the fact. Within two weeks, I wanted him back. He got himself a room at a boarders and even his own phone number, but he rarely called me for anything other than business. I constantly prayed and cried, prayed and cried, prayed and cried. The word of God became the air that I breathed. It was my only comfort. In march of '99, he moved to southern Fla. to live with her and her child. I was totally devastated by this and this was the time that I totally surrendered to my father and it was at this time that he became so very real to me. Here is where I found him to be my FIRST love. I began to seek the Lord for answers; I desperatly needed to know his mind concerning my future. What HE wanted for me. We don't have children but he has by his first marriage so I had no children to keep me busy and strong. It was all by the grace of God in his mercy and his unfailing love for me. I remember crying out to the Lord and asking for a place where I could be completely alone with him; where I could begin to rebuild my relationship with him and with God as my witness, he heard and answered my cries. I needed a place of solitude; it came in the form of a job relocation. At the time, I was contract on my job; and God in the richness of his grace gave me favor with my manager; even my managers' manager. I was immersed in favor!!! She was such a blessing to me; this company has been. I was hesitant at the beginning to accept the job so I sought the Lord for assurance that it was his will and the spirit of the Lord brought to my rememberance my request for a place of solitude; a secret place for me and my God. I accepted the job and moved to Houston and it was a move that I'll treasure for the rest of my life. Completely orchestrated by the master himself. It was such a great experience for me at this time in my life.<BR>So much has happened since then. He began to call me after I gave my mom permission to give him my number in Houston. He called me several times, but I wasn't ready to talk to him then. I didn't want to hear his happy voice; I couldn't bring myself to do it. The lord eventually showed me that he had equipped me with the strength to do so; my 38th birthday was in July and he called me that night; I wouldn't answer. I couldn't!! He continued to call and leave messages; asking for me to at least send him an email so one day about a week later, I did; an e-card just to let him know that I got his message and was thinking about him. I continued to avoid his calls. Each time I heard his voice, the wounds in my heart were ripped open once again. I would just cry out to the lord--asking him what did H want? God continued to prepare me. Then one day, while checking my voice messages, another call came in and I never thought that it might be him and it was. I felt unprepared at the time to talk to him but my God gave me the strength to listen and to speak.<BR>From that time on, he was trying to win me back; but my question to him was why? You have what you've wanted all along; why me? why now? and why call me from there? This is the time that he really began to pursue me. At this time, the lord confirmed to me that he heard and answered my cries for him to trouble that relationship; to make him miserable and to constantly remind him that regardless of what he was doing, he was still his and he still loved him; He confirmed that there was trouble in paradise, basically from the beginning. I rejoiced at hearing this news quietly to myself but in the presence of the Lord. Once I'd hung up the phone I began to praise God for his faithfulness, and still continued to cry out to him and seek his mind on what was happening.<BR>God challenges us to try him and find him to be faithful. I've so much more to share but time won't permit me to do so. <BR>I'm constantly praying for those on this website and will continue to do so because the Lord will give the victory.<BR>But things are just beginning for us. The enemy is still lerking and trying to bring confusion and trouble which is his job; he's lost a soldier and will fight even harder now to win him back. But God gives the victory.<BR>"We are more than conquerors through Christ Jesus who loves us".<P>Be encouraged; don't doubt the power of prayer; always pray--even when you don't feel like it's doing any good or even when you just don't feel like it; always give God praise and honor him with your lips.<P>God Bless....<BR>