I found out in August of '99 that my husband of 15 years had been cheating on me for the last year and half. When I found out I told him what I thought of him and that I never wanted to see him again. By the next day I changed my mind and told him I could forgive him, that I just wanted him to come back. Two days later he called and said he didn't want me to divorce him, that others had been through this and their marriages were stronger than ever. I was overjoyed. Then he tells me that he has to work this through before he can come back. His idea of working it through was to throw himself into the relationship with her. I would see his car parked outside her house in the morning and know he spent the night with her. He kept coming around telling me all his doubts about her. Which from what I've heard are justified. It looked like he was headed home so I put my pain aside the best I could and supported him. I found out that he was not ending the relationship with her and stopped seeing him. After a week he came back and scooped me up again. I called her and told her what was going on. She was furious that my husband was cheating on her, can you believe it! Any way they got back together after she said she would stay away so we could put our marriage back together. After a week guess who was back? I believed again that an end was in sight. Wrong again. More phone calls to her. Everything recycled again just the same way. I pulled away again and after a week he asked to speak to me and said he wanted to come home that he missed us and we were his future. I was suckered in again. I stopped seeing him again. By now we were at the Christmas holidays and he wanted to spend them with us. He had told both her and me that he needed to be away from both of us so that he could figure out what he wanted. He started to call and come over every day and we spent the holidays together. Two weeks into the new year we were still doing this but he hadn't told me yet what he was going to do. I gave him a deadline and he chose to end the relationship with her so we could have a fresh start. We started dating again. I could see he was getting depressed again and didn't think he could stay away from her. We decided that we should end our relationship with no more contact. He is already starting to say that he still wants to be here and cares about me, etc. I've decide that this time I can't listen to him. I need to see him leave her and stay away from her before I even consider taking him back. I don't want my marriage to end. It was a good marriage, even he says so. He said the problem is how he feels about himself not how he feels about me. I think in time he will realize that he is losing something precious and that she is not what he thinks she is. I'm asking all who are willing to, to pray for T & K. Pray that God will guide us back together and heal our pain. Thanks

I'll pray for you. Take care.

Lost and lonely,<P>I too have been on this road though a little different. It is a painful road but the lessons have been many and the Lord has taught them all to me. He is mighty to save. He wants you to turn to Him and give yourself to Him and pray. He wants a personal relationship with you. God loves you. Give it to God to touch your husband and bring him back to you. Get strong in the Lord and work on yourself. Then When you seek the Lord first He will change you into the woman He wants you to be. Regardless whether your husband can ever forsake the other woman you will be better. But I believe it is God's will to keep all marriage together. I pray He will yours.<P>Father, <P>I pray for T & K's marriage. You are the creator and author of our faith. Marriage is your idea. Help them to come to know you. Help them to turn to you to perfect their marriage. I pray that they will be built up in you and then be brought back together in a new marriage that is created by you and in your image. In Jesus nost Holy name. Amen.

I am so sorry you are having to go through this pain. I will be praying for you, and your husband.

Thank you to the people that responded to my posting. I'll add you all to my prayer list as well.

L&L,<P>My prayers are with you.<P>------------------<BR>Love and Prayers<BR>Nicole<P><BR>