My husband of 14 months is an alcoholic he has pulled time in jail for DUI's (5) and is <BR>on probation for his last one. His friends all of whom drink heavy; none of them except 1 <BR>is living with or married to someone they all know I don't like the drinking and yet they <BR>still call him very often and say "Let's get together" of course he goes. His family gives<BR> him money to buy alcohol when he doesn't have money in my eyes they are just contributing <BR>to him and his drinking. He is a very jealous man and wants to start arguments or fights if <BR>another man speaks to me in public. He has been through all the support groups they make<BR> people attend after getting out of jail, he has been to a detox center for a month all of <BR>which he did before we were married. Only 1 of his close friends has a steady job and they <BR>end up here at my house after I have gone to bed and he drinks with them and lays out of <BR>work the next day or he says he's going to the store right down the street and ends up at <BR>one of his "buddies" house and returns later reaking of alcohol and wanting to argue. His <BR>friends need to realize that alcohol is a weakness of his and need to stay away from him <BR>with it, they don't have wives that they can loose. Please if anyone can offer me any <BR>suggestions on this please help me.

My suggestion to you is get into Al-Anon right away. You need a support group to help you deal with your husband's drinking. Arguing with him when he's been drinking is a waste of your breath. Been there and done that! Most likely he won't remember anything you said anyway. Please don't take offense at what I'm going to say, but its not your husband's friends that are the problem. It's not your fault. Your husband makes the choice to drink - no one is forcing him. This was a hard lesson for me to learn in our 17 years together. It has only been through the grace of God that I am learning to "let go and let God". But, don't despair, there is hope. I used to say my husband was a hopeless alcoholic, now I say he is an alcoholic without hope, because he doesn't have God in his life to give him hope. <P>Dear God, I come to you in Jesus name to ask for comfort for Janet while she endures the trial she is in. I pray that you will show her your will for her life, and help to accept whatever your will is. Dear Lord, please speak to her husband's heart and soul, convict him of his sin of alcohol addiction. Bless this young marriage, Lord, please be with this couple as they face his addiction. I thank you Lord for Your presence in their lives. In Jesus Name I pray, AMEN. <BR>I will be praying for you and your husband Janet.