just an update of my situation<BR>me and my wife have been going to church.<P> for the last couple of days things seem to have been going in the right direction..but after church today we went to a restaurant that i had never been to before..she said that the food was good there.....while we were there in line i asked her a couple of questions about the menu.....she got angry and said "my god, quit asking me all these questions. i don't know"...."between you and cayla i am going crazy"."whats this , whats that, my god".........i was in a kind of shock at her behavier and cought myself staring at her speachless"......she said in a hateful voice "quit starring at me"...we did not speek to each other until we were home where she went and lied on the bed .i went to her and asked if anything was the matter,,,,she said that she has already told me everything,,,i said to her that i was sorry that i upset her at the restaurant and that i didn't mean to......she said "i know you didn't"...i said i am trying....she said."i know you are,but i am not"<P>i have had more patience than ever before..part of me wants to grab her and shake her screaming "WAKE UP".but i have been instucted by God to only love her and to put it in his hands...that is so hard to do,,,,i only want her to be happy.....i don't understand why if she is a christian, why she won't love me like i do her...i am continuaslly giving to her needs and she is not ......she says that she has prayed about it but it doesn't do any good.....??