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I am getting married in one month and our baptist pastor asked us to have counseling, no problem. he made us read doctor harleys book his needs her needs which brought up some conflicts but we are ok. the pastor told us to not have sex anymore, which i agree, but he told us to move apart from eachother(we live together) we have no money to move out and neither of us really have anyone to live with. one of us is sleeping on the couch the other in the bed and no sex. i think he is really bringing us an unnecessary inconvenience, what does anyone else think?
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dear miche:<P>one of us is sleeping on the couch the other in the bed and no sex.<P>Actually, that's great if you think of it as your second virginity -- of the mind and the will. If you have the right attitude, hopefully you will have the greatest wedding night because of your obedience to the Lord. If you have heard of the late Keith Green (Christian Songwriter with a great message), he was in a similiar situation and felt the call to stay away from his wife (with whom he had been living) until their wedding. It's been done and God blesses, even if you can't move out.<P>Best wishes, love and prayers for your wedding day (and night!) <P>(I'm so glad you found a pastor willing to marry you -- some won't, but I'd like to ask them, then how do you get the couple living together to "do the right thing?")<P>not so alone when praying!
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amialone, thanks for the reply. it makes me feel better to know someone thinks we are trying the best we can. i realize we made a mistake then; then i wasn't a christian. now <BR>i want to do what is right, but some things are hard to do, thanks again.
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