I am so tired of riding this rollercoaster that I have been on for the past two months. I know that that is probably not a very long time compared to the trials that many of you have been going through. However, it hurts just the same. Last week, my H tried to make contact with the OW after 5 weeks without seeing or talking to her. He came home very tearful and remorseful, admitted to me that God was bringing him to his knees and convicting his heart. However, this week, I have noticed that my H seems emotionally distant. He told me last night that he is still stuggling with thoughts of her. I guess that I should be grateful that Rob is home with me and is not giving into the temptation, but my heart hurts to know that he still can't bring himself to tell me that he loves me anymore. I have been bending over backwards to meet his needs - why isn't that enough? I'm trying to trust God's timing in all of this. I know that He is trying to teach me patience and perseverance, but I just don't know how long I can go on. I don't really have many close Christian friends that I can call on at home. I haven't really told anyone at church about what's been happening. This forum is one of my main sources of encouragement. Please pray for me!!

Hi!<P>I just wanted you to know that you are in my prayers. Maybe your husband is in "withdrawl". I don't know your specifics and I am no expert for sure, but maybe he is going through some withdrawal from the OW. That doesn't make it easy on you, I know. Hang in there. I think you are going through the typical "Plan A" stage. I hope he joins you completely and soon. I will continue to pray for you and hope God eases your pain and gives you peace.<P>God Bless You and Your Family,<P>Cindy

Hang in there, I will be lifting you and your husband up in prayer tonight during Praise & Worship at church. Blessings to you,<BR>AW

I am sure he loves you or he would not stay with you. I feel for your pain and his pain.<BR> Dear God please be with this wife and her husband. Comfort her and lead them to a save recovery in their marriage. God we praise your wonderful name. <BR> God bless you,<BR> Lost123

Try to think of the good part about this. The fact is that he is talking to you about it and admitted that he tried to make contact. Keep the lines of communication open. It does take time, lots of time. Hang in there! <BR>Dear Lord, please be with sbl and Rob as they work out their marriage. Give sbl patience and an understanding heart, open to You and your guidance. Thank you for convicting Rob and continue to heal him and his heart. Thank you for the many answered prayers you give us all. In Jesus' name, Amen

I know how you feel as I have been there. Be patient and wait on the Lord. "For we know that all things work together for good for those who love the Lord and are called according to His purpose." Romans 8:28. Stand on that promise. Nothing is beyond God's reach or His control and we are forever in His thoughts. Psalm 37 is also a comfort to me. I believe that my H's affair had not run it's full course as I received a letter telling me of it. He returned to her for the completion and the Lord openend his eyes to what she truly is. Wait on the Lord, He'll carry you through.

Dear Heavenly Father, thank You Lord for restoring sb1 and Rob's marriage. We claim the victory in Jesus' name, all to Your glory. Thank You Lord for sending the Holy Spirit to Rob, deeply convicting him of his sins. Thank You Lord for bringing him to repentance. Lord we thank You for the wonderful things You are doing in this marriage. We praise You Lord, lifting our hearts to You. Father, you are almighty, the greatest counselor. Thank You for listening to our pleas. We love You Lord, we worship You. Without You we can do nothing, we are nothing. Lord I pray that You will instill in Rob a deep abiding love for his wife sb1. Reveal to him Lord how important she is to him, that she is his helpmeet, and his role in marriage as a husband. Fill his heart, his mind, his soul with loving thoughts of his wife sb1. Give him a great measure of peace, comfort and contentment in his marriage. Let him see his wife sb1 in a new perspective, as You see her. Help sb1 to be the kind of wife You want her to be. Love her husband through her Lord. I praise You in the highest Father. In Jesus name I pray AMEN

Thanks to all of you for the prayers. I have been even more discouraged. I think I blew it today. I told my husband that I could not stand the wavering back and forth, his confusion about what he wants (he's definitely in a MLC). I told him that maybe it would be better for him to move out so that we don't keep hurting each other. My emotions just keep getting in the way. I just don't know what to do, why my once upstanding Christian husband is acting like someone who is lost in the darkness. Please keep praying that I'll be the kind of wife that he needs and that God will give him a new love for me. I'm hurting so much - your prayers help to get me through the day. SB