Friends,<BR>I have seen God work incredible miracles in my life this week. H is staying home, and even talking some responsibility for upkeep of the house. He has been more caring and thoughtful ..not perfect, but better... and very open to affection while we are in bed to sleep (a big deal for me...he used to withdraw to his side of the bed, and I couldn't sleep...now he cuddles and i sleep again.) However, 2 nights in a row H was supposed to go "somewhere"..park friday, work early for an extra shift saturday. So, Friday I went out for coffee with a friend, and yesterday I went to my mom's to visit my brother visiting from out of town. Both nights while I was gone H called OW in South America on his calling card...(checked redial). Both nights he had planned to go to work early to get the OT$ and both nights he said he hadn't been able to sleep , although he slept fine once I was home. He tries to tell me in the mornings that he was unaware I even came home, but I know he knows it's me...he wakes up enough when I come to bed to look at me, move a pillow over for me or something...so he's not unaware of who he's holding. i have 2 thoughts about the OW situation that I ned to concentrate on in prayer. H has said all along that she is just a friend (she was an old family friend, and he did try to introduce me to her in the beginning) and that they talk about how he feels about our marriage and what he's going to do (she is divorced...her H cheated on her). Wondering if that could possibly be true. Phone calls to SA are very expensive, H is broke...therefore phone calls must be short. H had wanted to take a trip to SA, and has vacation soon...if OW was rreally as important to him as I think, seems like he would make a point to get all the OT he could, but he's not gone through with it. This weekend alone he could have made enough to buy his ticket. So, I am thinking I should pray that since she has been betrayed before that God would touch her heart and help her see that she is participating in tearing a marriage apart....whether she is a friend or not. And I feel that no matter what the relationship, I need to pray for God to bind her influence over my husband and marriage and remove her from our lives. She supposedly will be moving to USA in a few months, but to NY. Baby will be here in Sept. H says no matter what he'll be a good daddy...present and active....and H starts a new job with a prominent company June 12 that has taken 5 years of testing and interviewing to get. I fear that in a moment of poor judgement he will leave the new job if OW comes to NY (we are in SC) and go there to be with her..deserting his newborn daughter. i am sure he would realize his mistake, but then he would already have lost his job. H never had a chance to go to college, so a position in this company will be hard to replace.<P>So, again I will ask all of you to please join me in prayer..as I lift all of you up in prayer daily....to help me ask for God to help this woman see the impact of her "friendship" and to remove her, and her influence, from our lives. It has been amazing to me how evident God's work has been in my life this week that I have brought every incident, every need, here to the board to ask for prayer partners to join their prayers with mine......H has even been oblivious to the beeper going off by his ear two nights in a row...someone either calling him to go out at 2a.m. or someone calling to wake him up to go into work for OT. H has been aware enough to respond if I ask him for a pillow, or to turnover and cuddle if i change positions, aware enough to respond when I ask for his hand to share the baby kicking in the night with him...but didn't hear the beeper by his ear!!!! That has to be GOD..what other explanation is there. That stupid beeper usually runs his life.<P>Anyway, i apprecaite all the support I get here. It helps me stay calm and strong. Thank you.<BR>kim

Kim, what wonderful testimonies of God's working in your life! Reread your posts and it will become evident what God is saying to you. He is saying, "Do not fear, I am in control" and "Trust Me". God wants you to trust Him with all of your heart and with your husband. Hand your husband over to Him, but keep praying. Pray every time your husband pops into your mind, thanking God for all He has done so far. Get your bible out and read, read, read. Look up 'faith' in the concordance and study the verses. My favorite when I am losing faith is Hebrews 11:1. Read Proverbs 5 - 7, read Malachi 2:14 - 16. God wants your marriage to be saved. Your prayers are being heard emptyinside. I will pray with you and will lift you up in prayer all day. Much love and prayers to you.<P>Dear Father, we thank You for the wondrous answers to emptyinside's prayers this past week. Lord You are almighty, the King of Kings, and Lord of all. All our thanks unto You. Father, I pray in the name of Jesus that the spirit of lust and adultery are bound in emptyinside's husband, and the spirits of fidelity, love, empathy and kindness are loosed upon emptyinside's husband. I pray that the OW in S.A. is mightily convicted of her sin regarding this relationship, and I pray that she is removed permanently from emptyinside's husband's life. Father, your word tells us that a husband is to love his wife, as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it. Lord we ask in Jesus' name that You will fill emptyinside's husband's heart with this kind of love for his wife, and no other woman. Thank You Father, all praise and glory are Yours. We claim victory in this marriage, and over the salvation of emptyinside's husband. Praise You Lord. IJN AMEN