Let me say right out that I feel it is a bit self-serving to ask for a sign but I'll tell you this. "Sign" or not, it is what it is.<P>Actually I asked twice for a sign. The first was Sunday in Church (I go alone right now). On Saturday a full electrical circuit was out of power in our house. After checking it out I was at a loss as to the problem. The breaker was not tripped and there was no power anywhere on the circuit. Power did leave breaker panel and up into the house. I could not trace where the line went because I just finished our basement and could not see the line. I had given up and had already envisioned an electrician spending a whole lot of time on this one. I expressed my frustration to my son saying that I have only onre other problem in my life that is out of my hands besides this electricity thing. (I was referring to my W's withdrawal and recent resumption of her EA. As I said on Sunday I asked for a sign of hope to get me through the day ( my W worked that day and chances were 90% she would not come straight home that night). I came home from Church and tried to fix this one more time. I remembered two junction boxes over the fireplace that we covered with wallpaper years ago and I planned eventually to out lights there. Anyway I went there and found a loose connection and the problem was resolved in minutes. To me that's a sign since I had compared that problem with our current crisis just the day before and had given up hope on the electric.<P>Second sign- On my drive home I prayed and apologized for asking for a sign for my W. I asked that it be shown to her last night. I asked that it be one that would give her the "opportunity" to step back and look at what's happening (not a smack on the head, mind you, but an opportunity to think).<P>She surprised me last night. after dinner I asked if she would like to run one of the tapes I recently bought and she told me that she was going to meet the OM. He was going to a counseling session having to with DWI and his license and was down all day. She wanted to see how he was doing. I was good and asked her to take care and we'll be home.<P>At 1:15 A.M. I get a call from the town Police A police department has never,never,never called our home except for contributions. My W fell asleep at the wheel on her way home and appears to have wrecked her car. She is OK, has a big bump. I do not know how my W will look at this, she says she wasn't going fast and was not in great danger. I stated that falling asleep is not selective and a tree or oncoming vehicle at 40 M.P.H. represents grave circumstances. I simply told her that I thank God she is alright and I wish I could comfort her more ( if she would let me). She apologized, and said I'm probably thinking that if she didn't go to meet him... and this is all the OM's fault... and I'm angry... etc.etc.etc.<P>I told her I feel none of those things and anm only thankful she is alright. It happened. It is what it is. Cars come and go and can be repaired. Anyway this might not seem like it to her but it is the first negative experience associated with "meeting him" at night since the resumption about a month ago.<P>Thank God for being with her last night!

May the Lord Bless you.<P>I will keep you in my prayers.<P>Nicole

A sign? A sign? I keep asking for God to sent a smoting angel to my H in the middle of the night (preferrably when he's at her house, so she can get the drift too). <P>Is that wrong?