My H and I separated 3 years ago. He went to live with OW (for 5 months) and then began talking about reconciliation. For the past 2.5 years, he has continued a relationship with both of us. I realize this is an addiction, and I have truly tried to be loving and supportive. He calls me (all hours of the night) when he has a problem or a crisis. He knows I love him and he tells me he loves me. The problem is, he has kept a relationship with both of us. He continues to tell me that he does not love her, nor does he want to spend the rest of his life with her. A little insight to what he gets from her, she is very unconditional in her acceptance of the way things are. She told me some months ago that she knew he was seeing me, but that she believed if she showed him how much she loves him that he would eventually give him her whole heart. My H knows that I will not accept a third party in our relationship and therefore he lies to me. The truth comes out and we go back to my H promising that he will do anything to make things work out between us. He has done this 5 or 6 times in the past 2.5 years. I keep giving him one more chance because I love him, believe that God wants families to be together and we have a 4 year old daughter. I have felt honorable about forgiving and making effort to reconcile. Our daughter is now aware of both relationships and he takes her to spend the night at hotels with OW and she also hears and sees his efforts at making our relationship work. It is a vicious circle, and she is now suffering the heartbreak as well, because he promised her he wanted our family together and that he would not see the OW anymore (I did not ask him to make this promise to her). He continues, sometimes he sees us both in the same day and he is intimate with us both. It hurts me and I know it is wrong. The truth seems to always come out after the fact and my H asks forgivness and makes promises he does not keep. I need wisdom and assurance that the Lord would have me go through with Plan B. I do not want to quit standing for my marriage, but the situation is becoming way to painful for us all, as it is now. This cycle has to be broken. I know that God can use Plan B to restore our marriage and that nothing is impossible with him. I do not trust my emotions at this time because I know they are whacked out, to say the least. I just need wisdom to know what course to take here and I believe that something has to change about this situation. I also pray that my H will have a divine appointment with the Lord because I know that the key is for him to have a heart change. I truly believe that there is nothing more I can do to show him I love him. The source of contention between us is the other woman and her continued presence in his life. I am truly exhausted emotionally and I am hurt by this latest turn of events. Thank you for your prayers, I truly want to do what is right in this situation.

O.D.A.A.T - Since he has been waffling so long, Plan B may be what you have to do know. Pray long and hard first though. There's been quite a few times I thought I should move to Plan B, felt sure it was time to stop trying, then after praying and fasting, the Lord told me again to "wait upon Him". So I continue to stand, wait and pray. <P>Dear Heavenly Father, I lift up onedayatatime to You, asking for your divine intervention in her situation. Lord, please give her clarity of mind, guiding each decision she must make. Show her Lord the path You wish her to take, and let her know without a shadow of a doubt what You would have her do. Let her rest in You Lord, placing all her trust in You. Thank You Lord for working in her life and her husband's life. We will sing Your praises now and forever more. I pray Lord also that the Holy Spirit moves swiftly in her husband's life, causing him to have a burning desire to reconcile his life with you, being fully repentant before You. Turn his heart back to his wife. Thank You Lord. In Jesus' name I pray AMEN

Thank you alcoholic's wife. I am continuing to pray and wait for an answer. Your prayers mean a great deal to me.

My prayers are with you. It hurts so bad when there is OW in picture. I have a 10 month old baby. I have had only one contact with my H in 1 month and it was by the phone. He told me that he needed to talk because I was the only one he could talk to.<BR>I will prayer for you and you family.<BR>

Tigger, thank you for your prayers. I have been following your posts and I pray for you also. I know that you are going through a lot also. I do know that God is good. I know he is a big God also, but the prayers and support of other believer's are so important when we are is situations like ours. I want to do what is right in the Lord's eyes. I want his plan for my life.

This situation is just beginning for me. My wife is moving out, starting this weekend and I believe she is seeing someone else. I will pray for you and your family to be reconciled. I am at my wits end in my situation.<BR>Lone_Knight